I got divorced in 2015. All assets were divided 50/50, including 2 pensions that my ex accrued whilst working in the city in the 90's.
The smaller pension, a city/banking specific is due to mature this October, when he is 50.
I have asked my ex husband on numerous occasions if I would be able to have access to this pension also from Oct, and am I able to draw down on this pension - on each occasion he said yes. He plans to pay off the remainder of his mortgage and we hope to buy a small field for our horses so we no longer have to rely on livery. (The other larger pension would then be kept as a 'pension'.....)
A month ago he spoke to the company who hold the pension and started proceedings to access it - he told me the pension has been moved into a holding account until maturity. Again, I asked him would we have access and be able to draw down once matured and he assured me yes.
In the meantime we have negotiated on a small plot of land and had an offer accepted, and have started legal proceedings. We have enough savings to buy the land, but the plan is to replace the money with my half of this pension, as wipes out our savings otherwise.
All was going well, or so I thought until I had a call from my ex DH yesterday, saying that because of the unusual nature of this pension, the only way to have access from it in Oct is to draw down the whole lot - but as he is in the higher tax bracket he would lose 40% tax on it! To avoid this, the only option is to transfer into a SIP, but means it could not be touched until either of us is 55yrs.
So basically he is refusing to draw down on it now and give me my 50% now, because of tax implications for HIM (I work p/t and earn under the tax threshold so am in a better situation).
Although I totally agree with him that it would be madness to lose so much in tax, all our financial planning and the purchase of the field were all reliant on this money coming in, and now we have committed our nest egg to a purchase we wouldn't have otherwise have spent. So am very frustrated with the situation, especially as he has reassured me on several occasions that this money would be available. He also said back in august that he wanted to draw the lot down, regardless of any tax implications, so very cross that he is going back on his word.
So a bit of a wwyd? Legally do I have a leg to stand on? Or could I ask him to 'buy' me out of this pension?
Thanks