NOT SURE IF ANYONE CAN HELP ME RE EX PARTNER

[jasminelilylousmummy]

Not sure if i am even in the right forum, but me & my dh live together (obviously!) but before we married he live with another girl, who he has a dd with, well she hasnt lived here for nearly 7 years but her name is still on the mortgage but mine isnt, well anyway he is going to talk to her tongight bout getting her name off the mortgage but tbh think he is worried, what is the best way to go about it? bearing in mind, she left him & never told him where she was goign & took his dd with her & we had to fight for 3 years thru the court to find her & get access, any help would be greatly appreciated xxxx

Bump for you but I get the feeling she isn't going to just let you take over the share in the house. I suspect she is going to want some money.....

thanks nab, thats fine we wil pay her, but i my hubby is really worried about talking to her about it, they had a really violent relationshio (her against him) and she is very confrontational

Take legal advice then. You may not have to see her.

jasmine could they possibly meet in a public place to neutralise the risk of violence?

Otherwise I'd do it through solicitors tbh

well they had mediation before to do with this & his daughter, but then she stopped attending she is so awkward, even when he picks his daughter up she sends her bf to the door & when dh asks to speak to her, ie health of dd or something, the bf always says she will text you, its so immature tbh!

Could it just be done over the phone?

she never answers the phone, sorry it seems like i am finding a problem whichever way doesnt it,its just she is so awkward i really appreciate you coeming back to me ladies

In that case just go to solicitors

There seems little point in pursuing it on an informal basis

yea i think thats the way, think he will go & see the cab first as we cant afford solicitors at the mo, do you think it will be beneficial that she did a runner & its been nearly 7 years?

I would go to CAB first, she obviously hasn't contributed for years, see how the land lies and then I would get it sorted through a solicitor so that it is all legal.

When my SIL got divorced they did it all themselves all except the name off the mortgage bit which they paid a solicitor to do.

As your DH's ex seems incredibly immature I would definitely do it through legal chanels, she can't even communicate about her daughter so think she would like to make life difficult for you over this.

thanks for all your advise we have an appt with the cab on thursday x