Bedroom sharing .... OPINIONS PLEASE !!!

[Mummy120494]

Ok so me my partner and our son currently live in a 3 bedroom House, my partner has a son to another women and he uses the spare room as his own room when he comes to stay once every 2 weeks. So my problem is that I believe I'm pregnant so we will be expecting another baby ! My question is what would you do regarding the room situation? Would you redecorate the spare room into babies new room and unfortunately say to my partners son that he will have to share this room when he comes down now and have it decorated to babies room or would you keep it decorated how he likes it and not turn it into a nursery?? I don't want him
To feel like he's being pushed out but at the same time I want our new baby to have everything our first child has . I don't wanna be horrible but my partners son stays with us twice out of the full month so is it fair that we keep the room to how he wants it and just ignore the fact that our new baby will be here 24/7 ?? Opinions please !!

I feel the people who live in the house full time need the space more than someone who comes just twice a month. However, you might be jumping ahead of yourself here as you don’t even know the baby’s sex yet. Personally, it the baby is a girl, I’ll let her have the smallest room to herself and I’ll decorate the bigger room for your son and your step son to share.

A baby has no idea what their room looks like. But I don't think it's a good move to make your stepson share with a baby - the two boys will have to share.

Don't make an issue of it yet, you've maybe 14 months before a baby would even leave your bedroom anyway.
It just comes across as a bit desperate to get his room off him, when presumably you're only just about pregnant.

Oh no I wouldn't even mention it yet I'm
Just a planner and I think of these things in advanced because I tend to worry about everything 😂 no I agree I would have my step son and current baby share a room
I didn't even think of it that way tbh lol thing is my step son is nearly 7 and my son is 7 months so obviously decorating it for the both of them is going to be difficult as they like different things that's where I don't no what to do lol but your right I'm
Thinking to far ahead need to just take a step back and calm down lol 😂

Oh no I wouldn't even mention it yet I'm
Just a planner and I think of these things in advanced because I tend to worry about everything 😂 no I agree I would have my step son and current baby share a room
I didn't even think of it that way tbh lol thing is my step son is nearly 7 and my son is 7 months so obviously decorating it for the both of them is going to be difficult as they like different things that's where I don't no what to do lol but your right I'm
Thinking to far ahead need to just take a step back and calm down lol 😂

At those ages it would make more sense for your 2 children to share while they were small.

However you write "believe I'm pregnant" ... so you're not even sure yet? I'd suggest you don't need to worry about room sharing just yet!

@RedskyAtnight
but I don't see the point in them sharing when my step son is here twice a month unless they just share whilst my step son is down maybe that could work .

And yes well I had a faint positive this morning so I'm pretty certain I'm pregnant but had a chemical pregnancy last month so don't want to get excited as of yet as I'm terrified it's going to happen again .

but I don't see the point in them sharing when my step son is here twice a month

You asked for opinions ... so I gave you mine. Very young children don't really spend time in their bedrooms apart from sleeping. As your two children will be very close in age it will be convenient for you in lots of ways to have all their things in one place e.g. one supply of nappies/changing stuff, sit and read them both a story at the same time. And as the baby's not even born yet and you'll presumably have them in with you to start with, that gives you a few years of breathing space before you start reorganising furniture.

Appreciate that you are a planner and that you want new baby to have everything your first child had. BUT in reality your two children will probably adore sharing a room and your baby will be completely oblivious as to whether they have a decorated room or not.

So honestly, I would plan to do nothing, longer term I would plan for your two to share and I might make sure I had a cot on coasters which could fit through doors and move easily so that you can move the new baby into a room if it's own post 6 months if you think it will be easier when the baby is still waking for him not to share with your eldest.

In terms of emotional impact it's far more important for your step son to not feel pushed out of the family.

Thankyou for you opinions guys has really helped ! I'm just gonna try not to think about that just yet I need to get through the first 12 weeks if pregnancy first and then maybe start thinking about it haha but yeah Thankyou guys xx

We’ve just had this situation in our house.
DSD is 11, my DS is 3 and I’m currently 26w, unknown sex.

We’ve decided that DSD’s need for space and privacy trumps the younger kids. Because it really does. I’d hate to be her age and sharing with a toddler!
We’ve planned on having the new baby in with us for a good 6-12m and then the two youngest will share, bunk beds probably. I’m sure they’ll love it.

What size are the bedrooms? I would be inclined to make the two boys share, assuming your son is sleeping through the night by that time, and put the baby in the current "baby" room. I am assuming that room is smaller but your options may be slightly different if not. If the new baby is also a boy, you have the option of your two sharing when they get older, and DSS going in the smaller room, but I wouldn't personally do that while one is a night walking baby disturbing the other child every night, and the other room is standing empty 90% of the time.

I'm not sure what you mean about decorations, but I live in a rental property and neither of the kids rooms are decorated for the kids, other than having their stuff in it. It should be pretty easy to decorate it in a neutral way.

I would keep baby in with me for the first year And then my 2 children would share the bigger of the two children’s bedrooms. My step son would have his own room (The smallest room) when he comes to stay and his room would double as a guest Room / spare room when he isn’t there.

If both boys were yours then they would be sharing so that the baby could have the 3rd bedroom. So, you would be treating your step son the same as you would treat your biological son. It's fairer that he shares with his brother than the baby. He doesn't need to share a bedroom until the baby needs the room. Please don't make him share now so that you can create a nursery which won't get slept in until the baby is 6 months.

my step son is nearly 7 and my son is 7 months so obviously decorating it for the both of them is going to be difficult as they like different things

Decorating is not the issue. Your 7 month old son does not have an opinion about how his room is decorated!

You have a 7 Month old and you are pregnant again? Just checking that is correct? If so clearly the two little ones can share for many years before this is actually an issue?