Baby is 4 months old. Her father and I like each other but have acknowledged that we aren't going to be able to live together. And we probably won't be together forever.
Dp has a good salary afaik but I don't know how much he earns.
So he told me he used the government website to work out how much maintenance he should pay and that it says £350 a month for dd. Ok, I said. He then asked if I would be ok if he opened an account for dd and put in £50 from my £350, plus another £50 of his own. Again I was ok with this.
So he paid me £300 twice and now has cut the amount to £150 because, he says he didn't get as much commission last month. BUT he told me recently that he'd been spending £200 a week on food and groceries to stockpile because of this coronavirus. There is no sign of the proposed bank account for dd. Apart from this money he doesn't buy anything else except the odd tin of formula.
Our baby grows very fast and I have to keep buying her new clothes and she has now also grown out of her crib. I'm on maternity allowance and I'm pretty sure his standard of living is better than mine.
He told me that he would be really angry if I ever asked the CMS to calculate what he should pay. But what they calculate is a minimum amount and it's not unfair.
OTOH I can't cope with him exploding at me. My mum says I should definitely go to the CMS because he'll always put himself first.