House item (do you discuss first) I bought it

[granadagirl]

So today I saw an item I’d previously bought secondhand. Unfortunately after couple days realised it wasn’t working as it should

Dp friend as one! And said it was great, so he was all for it. Not that my judgement was enough

Anyway, today I see Argos as said product on sale it should be £499 on offer £307
So I tell him, no response.
I go on product website and re read what it does, and think yes that what I want
I do online chat to see if price match, yes
So I order two.
One for lounge and one for MY ds bedroom

I tell him I’ve ordered 2, well he comes out with
HE- I like the way you consult me about what your buying
ME - I’m buying them
HE - I said last time it was a bag of shit and made the room cold
ME- yes that’s because it wasn’t working as it should.
HE - you have no right to just buy things without discussing it with me

I’m fuming, it’s me bloody paying for it
As I see it as, I want it
Ainu ?

He’s gone into silence mode, which I hate as it makes an atmosphere
I feel if I’m paying I should be able to do it?

He didn’t ask me could he buy a motorcycle
Or another car(2 now)

What is it ?

It’s a dyson humidifier

If it’s your money, it has nothing to do with him

Exactly, that’s my thinking. Wasn’t like I ordered and said you owe me half

It’s up to you.

I general tel DH about bigger purchases but I’d it’s my money he has no real say. Same the other way.

He’s just decided to speak after 5 hrs, not in a polite way with a hint of Don’t give a shit

I just said
Oh you can talk as well as tell me what I can bring into house
He’s just gone mental
I just said, you didn’t even tell me you were getting bike and another car
One rule for you, another for me

Because it’s a fan as well as humidifier
He’s just said , well it won’t be fucking pointing at me! Etc etc

I’m in tears now, I hate atmosphere’s and falling out
But why should I not do/get what I want for fear of it causing an argument and him not speaking to me till he decides

We do discuss although our finances are separate.
I like to have another perspective.

We discuss any purchase over £50, not to give one another permissik but so that we are both aware of where our finances are at and that the other doesn't have any information to suggest another product/brand would be better. This doesn't include shoes or clothes, I generally just get in and deal with those purchases.

This is controlling, if it cost a grand and you wanted it and paid for it, then it wouldn’t be anything to do with him. He’s a dick.

Is your dh struggling for money himself? I can see that he might get upset, if that's the case...

dp sorry