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coffeeisaddictedtome · 23/01/2020 23:05

Hi I really hope someone can help I'm really stressing. Long story short ish ..... Have a Chronic illness + 1dd 15 and lived privately rented and because couldn't work rec benefits including PIP which I was assessed for and only need reapply in 6yrs . All was good and could afford someone help with housework etc as most of my life is spent in bed . An ex came back into our lives promised me the world , would look after me etc etc easier if we move in with him etc and now decided 1 yr on he's not in love with me anymore (GREAT) I've moved miles away from where I was and my local Gp knew about my condition etc and would write my sick notes for 6months at a time as like he said was pointless him doing them monthly as nothing would change and with ESA they still wanted them yet never assessed me. I'm scared as although at the moment I'm still in the same house although In my own room since Oct and am trying to find somewhere close by school etc as GCSE's already starting and got intouch with Universal cr and they said I could claim now ( I didn't think I'd be able to living in same prop) but now want me to get a fit note from my new drs and go in for an interview and speak to a work advisor even though I'm on higher rate PIP? Surely they must see that if been awarded it at that rate I've been deemed as not capable but feel like I'm having to go through it all again and it's really making me feel awful, I know some are dishonest but I'd love my old self back and be able to work but it feels like you're trying to be caught out lying . I'm even scared that because I haven't really seen this Gp and this disease is different for everyone he will maybe think why can't you work? Sorry I know I'm rambling I'm terrified I struggle with my speech now too and mobility is not good and the thought of it all is too much on top of thinking my future was a little safer now to find myself back like this .. God hope you've not fallen asleep because of how long this ended up being x

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TheMustressMhor · 23/01/2020 23:15

Hello OP.

You'll get very good advice and support from Scope.

www.scope.org.uk

Please bear in mind that receiving the enhanced rate of PIP does not mean that you are not fit for work Plenty of people who get PIP do work.

PIP is awarded to assist disabled people with the additional costs of daily living when one is disabled.

You should start your claim for UC immediately. Get a sick note from the GP you are with now. I actually don't understand why you weren't claiming ESA anyway? PIP is not enough to support a woman and child on. You should have got ESA which included a component for your DD.

You may be able to get a note for stress and anxiety anyway, even if the new GP doesn't know your physical condition as well as the old one did.

When you move you just give them your new address.

Best of luck. It may seem overwhelming now but you'll get through it.

RedHelenB · 23/01/2020 23:23

You ve a daughter doing her gcses. That is and should have been your priority. You need to take whatever steps necessary to ensure she has a settled hone and unfortunately if that means going through the whole PIP process again then you're going to have to

coffeeisaddictedtome · 23/01/2020 23:27

Oh bless you @TheMustressMhor . I didn't realise that some people could get enhanced PIP and still be able to work ( feel really ignorant now😬) Yes stressed is an understatement at the moment I really didn't expect to be stuck in this situation especially as there's no way I'd have left where I was living before with everything sorted out etc if I hadn't thought his plans of marriage etc weren't 100% genuine mostly as I don't have the energy or strength to try and sort all of this . It would have been stressful enough when I was fit and well x I'm hoping life begins at 50 now forget 40 lol. I just feel so judged , you have a good few hrs put some make up on and leave the house and ppl think ohhhh look she's fine they don't see the rest x

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coffeeisaddictedtome · 23/01/2020 23:35

@RedHelenB I don't need to go through the Pip process again ? I said that has been awarded for 6 yrs. Obviously I know my daughter comes first before anything?!, I'm not quite sure I understand where you're coming from with this ? I'm looking for somewhere to live close to her school? Not sure what me being stressed and worried about Universal Credit has to do with your comment to be fair she has and always will be my priority

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june2007 · 23/01/2020 23:39

If you can not physically travel for a pip assessment. Then you may be able to get it nearer to you. Only found out when oh when for his. But yes they do need to be reviewed which is fair enough as health and conditions change.

PityParty4one · 24/01/2020 03:09

Do not claim UC unless they have removed you from ESA.
If you are on enhanced PIP and do not live with anyone over the age of 18 who cares for you, you can claim SDP element of ESA which means if you need rent costs you just claim HB from the local council.
UC does not have extra payments for severe disability so you are worse off financially on UC.

coffeeisaddictedtome · 24/01/2020 08:16

Thank you @PityParty4one .

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TheMustressMhor · 24/01/2020 09:20

You do not have to go through another PIP assessment. OP.

You need to get your UC claim sorted out. Also somewhere to live. But the UC claim is the priority. You can always give them a new address.

Best of luck.

coffeeisaddictedtome · 24/01/2020 09:45

Hi , thank you @TheMustressMhor I knew I wouldn't need reassessing for PIP maybe my wording on my original post wasn't great as others mentioned about it too. Sorry . I have interview booked for tomo morning now , I'll just be glad when sorted it just seems a lot to get my head around at the moment . Thank you for the nice reply though and advice Thanks

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TheMustressMhor · 24/01/2020 09:58

Honestly, OP, the Scope website (which I linked above) is the best place to get support and advice.

Wishing you all the best.

coffeeisaddictedtome · 24/01/2020 11:52

I've just been on the site it's fantastic @TheMustressMhor !!
So helpful wish I'd known about it years ago ! Thank you again ThanksThanks

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