Nouveau riche parents

[Mikki77]

The parents of one of the daughters in my daughter class is throwing an end of term party for the whole class. The daughter is a bully and instead of tackling the problem they throw money at it by having a party whenever she's in trouble. They have a big house, hire staff and have an expensive restaurant cook. Sounds lovely..
.... but you to coo, there's never enough food or drinks for the children let alone the adults (the hosts are cocaine lovers) and now that everyone has rsvped to attend they want to charge £20 per couple and £10 per child. AIBU to think what the fuck?

Why on earth would you want to go at all?

Of course, 'Old money' parents would not do such a tasteless thing. Why are you bothered? Just do not go.

Don't go there's enough time till the end of term to turn down the invitation. Problem for you solved.

So the request for money came after everyone had accepted? Just decline on those grounds. Rather than throwing money at the problem, they appear to be attempting to profit from a party. Very odd.

My daughter is desparate to go as all her friends are going ....I just feel uneasy about the whole thing. Who throws a party then charges people?!

That’s weird. And not really a party, more an invite-only paid event.

Why don’t you go and do something nice as a family that day instead- if you go to the party, you’re teaching your daughter all sorts of wrong things.

Make yourselves busy on that day?

Travel 30 miles from where you live perhaps?

I wouldn’t be going if I were you.

£20 to attend a kids house party !?! No bloody way

Regardless of the off cost thing, why would you send our kids to a party in a house where you are implying they're all coked up?

I don't understand the issue, just don't go. I'd be more worried by the cocaine enthusiast parents rather than what moeny they have or when they have a party. You don't seem to like them so just do go.

How odd. Don't go and if need be find another engagement or plans that you have as a family.

The cost is ridiculous, but aside from that why would anyone send their child to a house if they think there's cocaine being used?

Are they charging for the drugs upfront maybe?

What on earth has this got to do with being “nouveau rich” ?

What a nasty thread title!

Bizarre how can this be real?

Who invites people to a party THEN charges Why would you and your daughter be invited to same party ?
Why would your daughter want to go to party of girl who is a bully and why would you allow that? Add to that the coke habit which they seem to want you to fund! I’m confused where the dilemma is

Also who cares if their wealth is new or old how is this reluctant to your issue?

How much money they do or don’t have and how long they’ve had it for is irrelevant and makes you just sound jealous
They point is that they are drug users and are charging for an event you don’t want to pay to go to, so dont

Flipping cheek - unless it was discussed and people decided it would be a good idea to have an end of year get together in which case it's not unreasonable for everyone to pay. If it is their party then they are cheeky to ask. Find out.

My kid wouldn't be going to any party at the home of known drug takers whether they were new money/old money/no money. Think we'd be busy doing something else that day.

You're only making yourself look foolish with this thread. If it us indeed true.

Gosh darling, those of us with old money wouldn’t dream of behaving in such a vulgar fashion.

There's no dilemma as such. I dont feel my daughter or I should go but some others mothers are giving me a hard time for not joining in and my daughter missing out!

of course the threads true how could you make it up?

What relevance is the "age" of the money here?

Your right the age of the money isn't the point. Apologies.

I wouldn’t go, OP. They don’t sound like people you want your DD around!