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[DivaMamma]

Hi Mammas our there I need some advice

What am I entitled to from my ex partner who has two other children to two different mothers who both have since had more children and got married to their partners - should they not take part of the cost of the children they have became step parent to? as I've been told I will get a low amount as I had his last child, although I'm single - he works but is on a zero hour contract and isn't guaranteed work. I don't want to go CSA as he does pay for his child but I'm interested to know what I would and the other mothers would be in titled to.

Does his zero hour contract change things?

Do each of his children's mothers get the same amount?

Even when the other mothers have since married and had new children?

Both other mothers work as do their new husbands

Also dose the money he give me cover for everything my child will need and can I ask him for more if needed?

Sorry about long winded message just trying to work things out

Thanks

:)

If he has 1 child each with each person then each will be entitled to the same - the money isn't for you, or the other mothers. It is for the child.
Also dose the money he give me cover for everything my child will need and can I ask him for more if needed? No, you should be also providing for the child too.

Yes each child is equal, having a new partner does not reduce his parental responsibilities.

You are also required to contribute financially it's not just him.

I do for my child as well but the other women don't they go to humans in turn I get less as they have both said I'm entitled to less!

So can he give me more if I ask him like the other mothers do?

I know the money isn't for me, it goes towards my child's needs which I meet. How much should I be entitled too if he is in a zero hour contract?

I don't understand your last post; 'humans?'

No your child isn’t entitled to less, they will get less as the money will be shared three ways not two.

Your issue is not that the others should get less as they now have partners but that your dc is entitled to same as each of his other dc.

Humans stupid predictive text..

They basically ask my ex for more and he gives it to them but when I asked why they said it's so they can pay for extra treats for their children so I don't understand if I can.

I don't mind what they get I'm just trying to ascertain what I should also receive extra also how much should I receive to I don't know?

How much is dependent on his income, irrelevant of whether it is zero hours or not. It's also irrelevant whether his other children have step-parents that are married. Child maintenance is for the child, as everyone has said. There's nothing to stop you asking for more, but there's nothing that entitles you to it. Do you work?

The amount your ex pays is split equally among the 3 children. Before your baby was born the other two mothers received more. Now there is a third child their money is reduced BUT you all receive the same amount. If he has a fourth child with someone else your money will reduce. How much does he earn a year - roughly? And yes, you can ask him for more money, but he doesn't necessarily have to give you more.

For example if your ex earns £50,00 per year. He is suppose to pay £175 per week for 3 or more children. So £175 divided by 3 children is £58.33 per child. However, if he goes on to have a fourth child and splits with the mother that will be £175 divided by 4 children, which means each child will receive £43.75.

Got you, it's what I thought not what they are telling me. Thank you for that as it is confusing at the best of times.

Thank you happyendings :)

Glad I could help. Please go through the CMS. If you have a private arrangement your ex can choose to not pay you one week and there's nothing you can do about it. However, if you go through CMS, if he chooses not to pay/can't pay at one week, you will get the money back at some point. Child maintenance does not effect any benefit you receive - you said you were a single mum? If you receive tax credits or Universal Credit they will probably ask how much you receive in child maintenance, but it should be completely disregarded.

The amount the CMS says your ex should pay is the very minimum. Most women on here have arrangements that the father of the child pays for school uniform, after school clubs, big items etc. I don't know how old your child is, but if they are not yet at school you could suggest he pays for childcare (if you work) swimming lessons or even that he puts 'pocket money' into the child's savings account. If the other two mothers have re married and he pays them extra, he certainly should be helping you more as you're a single mother - I guessing not through choice!

Stop engaging with the other mothers. Go via the cms. Your child has equal rights to his other children.

They sound very untrustworthy if they are telling you this nonsense. Good you checked!

I would say, rather rudely, do try and work out how to make more money in the future yourself via other means if you did find that you are struggling. (Training courses to increase change of promotion, volunteering to improve CV, ?, not sure obviously what might be appropriate.)

Only because your Ex sounds a bit carefree with his sperm and your amount will go down if he has more children.