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loopylol1990 · 07/11/2019 18:05

Sorry for long post. Basically me and my partner have been together 4.5 years and have a 3yo child. Hes on a very good wage pays Bill's in house and I buy food shopping and pay for childcare. I only work part time due to childcare. My partner can be quite selfish with money and if I ever needed money for milk etc he will point blank refuse to give me it. Anyways I have quite a bit of debt ( my own stupid fault I know) so basically what's left of my wage is paying my debts. My partner also expects half of my wage off me each month for his spending money to go to pub or whatever which leaves me with nxt to nothing yo live on each month. Due to all of this I have fallen into depression . I also have morses club loans (door to door) which are costing me 140 a month. My partner doesnt know about these debts and will go absolutely mental if I told him. I just feel like everything is fallen apart for me and I have nobody to talk to. I'm ashamed that iv let myself get into this state. I have 4 family birthdays plus my partner nxt week and dont have a penny to buy anything (only got paid yesterday). I'm just sick of my life and cant see any way out. I cant get a debt relief order or anything either as he is on too big of a wage. Anyways I dnt really know why I'm writing this post just feeling so helpless. And thankyou to whoever has read this x

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GetyourAQSFright · 07/11/2019 20:35

I know it is easier to say than do but you need to seriously think about leaving him. This is verging on, of not already, financial abuse.

GetyourAQSFright · 07/11/2019 20:36

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 07/11/2019 20:38

Your life sounds shit. 🙁

Can you go back home to your parents temporarily you and the baby? With a view to paying off debt and renting a little place for you and your dc

loopylol1990 · 07/11/2019 20:42

Yeah my life is shit tbh. I had a great life till I met him and everything changed....
And no not really my mam only lives in a flat and she already has my brother and sister at home. Plus where i am I'm 2 mins walk from work and my sons nursery. My mam lives 15 m9ns drive away so that wouldn't work

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 07/11/2019 20:57

Where did you live before you moved in with him then?

loopylol1990 · 07/11/2019 21:00

I lived with a flat mate for a couple years. She then moved back to her parents when I moved in with him as she couldn't afford Bill's on her own

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