urgent custody question - shared? rights?

[lunavix]

I posted previously and someone (sorry haven't energy to look up who but I was grateful for the advice) said it went to court and their dh got alternate weekends and an evening every week and I think another person agreed they got similar.

Dh is insistant that we'll have shared custody, which in his eyes means he has them mon-fri mornings and evenings, then the next week all weekend (so some weeks he'll have them for a whole week basically and them some weeks I will)

I'm thoroughly against this and I'm wondering how much of a chance he has of getting it. He says he'll also drag up as much dirt as he can about me to try and get it, including stuff about my family, my past.... it's fairly shady but I'm holding onto the hope that pretty much none of it is relevant since I've had the kids, well since I met him, so it's obvious things changed.

I'm panicking, I don't want to lose my babies

oh that mon-fri thing is mornings/evenings/nights. I'm a CM so he feels he'll drop them off and pick them up from me each day.

hes chatting utter bollox....go and see a solicitor as to where you and he stand then throw all the legalities at him.can u not just come to an amiccable agreemant without the courts???

I have no real advice on this, but wanted to let you know someone had read.
I can't personally see how he would gain shared custody by telling the courts shady stuff about you, surely if he's going to make out you're awful then they're going to ask why the hell he isn't trying to get full custidy of the kids..I'd have thought anyway.

Hope things work out for you

x

it doesnt realy make any differance about whatever happened in the past.im sure that judges can see bitter DHs trying to get one over on their wives.They dont look at what is best for the dickhead dad....or even the mother, they look at what is best for the children.You being a childminder will work in your favour.