How do I go about asking my mother to pay rent? She and my brother have been living with me and my family (DP and 2 DS) since October. She got displaced from her home and racked up debt living in hotels for a year. We have never asked her for money to pay for bills. However we have asked her to pick up toilet paper, to which she replies " I only use the bathroom once a day here." I am so embarrassed by how stingy she is. My partner takes care of all the bills and I am a SAHM. He only wanted to help her get back on her feet. He feels taken avantage of and doesn't know how to deal with the situation. He feels bad having to charge her for rent but while they've been here it's been an absolute nightmare. They don't clean up after themselves. My brother has ruined the carpet and multiple pieces of furniture. I feel bad because I want them to go. We know she has money, she has a good job, but has bad credit. While she's been here she's bought thousands of dollars of clothes and shoes. She has never bought anything for the house or our children and we have another one on the way. How do I go about this? I just dont want things to get bad. I want it to be as civil as possible. We plan to talk to her this weekend and I think she's going to be upset.