By 35 is it normal to have inherited money?

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It’s never been something I’ve ever received or expected as I have a very small family and no grandparents but all around me family members (non blood related) and friends are inheriting money from relatives (not parents).

Is this typical of most mid 30’s person?

My DH inherited £10k from a distant aunt I had never even heard him mention or ever met.

Sometimes when we discuss future plans he talks about moving to a certain area. An area that to me we could never afford to live in without something drastic happening to our finances.
His response is always that you never know and it’s almost like because he has a much larger family he just knows that some day he will inherit money where as that’s never been anything I have considered

No not normal if your parents live a long life!

I've never inherited anything and I don't think I ever will. Parents and in-laws should leave enough for their funerals and some stuff to clear out their houses I don't want.

Not at all normal IMO. My dad died when I was in my early 30s but I didn’t inherit anything because it all (quite rightly) went to my mum who is still going strong nearly 30 years later.

I only have two friends who have inherited anything more than a very little (under 10K) from parents. One is in his 60s and the other very late 50s.

I think you will find that they're millions and millions of people that go through life never having received any form of inheritance from anyone.

I think your husband's attitude is very poor, who wants to go through life hoping they land themselves someone else's money after they pass? He sounds very, very entitled.

If he continues to receive inheritance, good for him. I hope he actually values the relations that would consider leaving him their money. But the reality is, this is not that common and many do not get anything.

Not in my circle - my friends haven't suffered the loss of both parents before aged 35. Thankfully.

And there aren't fabulously wealthy extended families where relatives drip down bequests to great nephews etc

I did inherit some money at 35 from my DM's stepfather. He actually left my mum nothing, but my aunts (his daughters) decided to pool their inheritance and split it so that my Dsis and I got the same as their DCs, and my mum got the same as they did.

Beyond that, it was all much later. My H was 51 when his DM died and he inherited from her. I'm 51 now and my H died last year, so I have inherited from him, and last Saturday my DM died so here we go again.

I'd honestly rather have them all back, even my H whom I was divorcing at the time.

I'm in the same age bracket as you OP. I have inherited from my GP's and my DH has inherited from his DF.

As previous posters have said, my parents always warn of people who are reliant on inheritance. Anyone's parents could have a stroke (for example) and live in a nursing home for 10+ years. That would see to any inheritance you might have had.

My grandparents died when I was in my teens, and my dad died when I was 24. My mum did put some money away for my sibling and me, which I used as a deposit for a flat. Now 46, my mum has remarried, and I don’t expect to inherit much despite her being very wealthy - they live a high old life! She also has a lot of grandchildren between her husband’s family, and my sibling’s DC. The house will eventually come to me and my sibling after her husband dies if my mum passes away first.

I’m 50 and I inherited £200 from my godmother about 15 years ago.

All grandparents dead but their money was inherited by my mum and dad. Mum dead, her money was inherited by my Dad. His new wife has expensive tastes so not much left now (and there was quite a bit... at least 500k) and if he dies before her then she will get it all and her will leaves everything to her niece and a cousin.

And even if his relatives are rich, very rich it won’t necessarily come his way. Rather randomly 2 friends have just watched their recently bereaved and up until thenlovely parents give it away to their wealthy former colleges. 😡😳

Um, how odd. I'm late 40s, and I don't think I've inherited anything - all grandparents are dead, but none left money direct, it all went to my parents (although a couple of generous amounts given in life by one of them, and I inherited some 'stuff' - jewellery, furniture, and in one case a gorgeous Hermes scarf!) Aunts and Uncles mostly still living - or have left money elsewhere. I don't anticipate much from my parents either - fully expect care homes/care/health to eat up most of the money nowadays...

I had a few hundred quid off my nan when she went, although it wasn’t inheritance as such, my dad found a suitcase full of used notes under her bed whilst clearing out her house and whatever was in there was split between the grandchildren.

My parent’s generation are the first in either side of the family to potentially have any money to leave anyone, but only really their houses not any other sort of wealth. If my parents don’t need care homes then I guess me and my siblings will inherit their house but we’d see that money spent on the best care it could buy before any of us worried about getting our hands on it.

My friend’s DH has his eye on ‘her inheritance’, ever since her mother died and he helping his FIL sort out his finances afterwards. I think it’s a disgusting attitude especially seeing as he cannot stand the man. I hope he spends it all and lives for many many years just so he can’t get his hands on it.

I did, a couple of years before I was 35 and then dh did a couple of years after he was 35. Would have much rather had our relatives around for longer.

I inherited a seventh of the estate of my childless great aunt when I was 34. It was completely unexpected and came to £41k.
I’m 48 now and my healthy, mid 70s DPs could easily live another 20 years. Their own parents did. I am not expecting to inherit much from their estate and don’t like to think about it really. I think most of my friends still have their parents and have not inherited anything much.

Neither of us has inherited anything, and we're both over 40.

The only person I know in our family who has inherited something is MIL. She kept friendly with a wealthy bachelor uncle thinking she'd be set for a happy retirement on what he left her. She got enough to have her dog, who died on the same day as the uncle, cremated. There's a lesson to us all there 🤔

We inherited from my Pils. Enough to pay our mortgage, update our car and book an amazing holiday, with some left for a 'rainy day' we'd reverse it all to have them back with us though.

I inherited in my 20s and then again in my 40s. I wasn't expecting it either time which was lovely. I didn't know of anyone else who inherited in their 20s at the time, I don't think it is the norm.

I still have my parents and have no expectation of inheriting there, I hope they blow the lot on golf and M&S meals

A friend of mine has inherited a lot of money (not sure how much) in her mind thirties, but she has lost both of her parents and I’m so very sad for her. I hope mine and my dp’s hang around for a very long while yet.

I inherited about 3.5k from my grandma ten years ago which I think we frittered. It was completely unexpected especially as I’m not even her blood relative. She was the mother of my stepdad but always treated me as her favourite.
We’ve also just received 1.5k from my other grandma which I also did not expect. We’ve used it to pay off the last bit of debt we had.
My H also inherited around 20k from his grandparents 15 years ago and we spent it on the deposit for a house and then doing the house up.
Other than an Auntie who has no kids I don’t expect either of us to inherit again other than from our parents which will hopefully be a long time off as they are all in their sixties.

My stepsister is 19 and in a unique position that she was the only child of an only child of an only child. Her mother has sadly already died but she will inherit the house if anything happens to my dad and her 88yr old grandma’s house has been put in her name 16 years ago so she’ll get that as well. Good luck to her.

I inherited £500 from my grandfather. Nothing from any other grandparents. When my dad died, everything went to my mum.

I've lost 3/4 grandparents, various aunts and uncles and inherited zilch so far, and have no expectation of anything more!

I feel like 30s is quite young to have inherited anything significant. I’m in my early 30s and inherited £5000 from a grandparent a few years ago. DP is same age and he inherited £15,000 from his grandmother as a child. Unfortunately he was given access to it at 18 and doesn’t have anything left to show for it. I don’t expect either of us to inherit anything else apart from from our parents and I hope that’s quite a way off from happening. I wouldn’t say 30s is a usual age to receive inheritance, I’d expect it much later in life.

I'm 42 - my Mum left me £6,000 when she died. I won't inherit anything else. But, yes, a few people I know (who aren't in my family) have inherited money, or been given money for house deposits, etc.

I inherited 16k in my late 20s and then about 60k in my late 30s.

Dh inherited a quite a bit in his late 30s, it's tied up in property and land but potentially worth a lot.

My husband will be inheriting ( in theory ) from his granddad which I imagine would be when he's in his mid to late thirties but it's not something we rely on