Am I being unreasonable

[Airz]

Hi my fiancé and I have been together for 6 years have a child together and both have kids from previous relationship, my dream was to join the Royal Marines which she full supported at the time but due to allergies I couldn't I work on the doors at the weekend and look after the kids and she works as a support worker just started 9-5/10-6 on weekdays we have a mortgage and money is tight have my sister living with us also she doesn't work, I've been offer work as a private military contractor working in Iraq and pay is very very good she shot me down as soon as I mentioned it and that she'd break up with me if I go, it's 2/3 months on 3 months off I don't know what to do as I love her however how can I be with someone who doesn't support my dream anything she's ever wanted to do I've supported 100% even encouraged her to go further. Am I being unreasonable and selfish wanting to go with it

Oh come on, that’s unfair throwing this “ice supported her dreams” stuff.

Have any of her dreams involved her leaving you or 2-3 months in every 6, and for you to live in fear during that time? And for her to be away from her kids, including leaving full time care to you?

Some families would make this work.
It is absolutely not unreasonable that this is not for her though.

Talk it through with her. The impact on her. Her fears. Will she be able to work? How will your children feel? But in these conversations, just DON’T make any guilt tripping comparisons about what you have done for her, because none of it compares!

Yes her dream job involved being away from home for more than 3 months and I fully supported her whilst I worked and looked after the kids also, it doesn't matter now anyway as I've decided not to take it and she broke up with me before going in holiday with my sister an hour ago

That escalated quickly.

From yesterday being a couple of 6 years with one child and a mortgage together and others from previous relationships, although money is tight....To her breaking up with you and going on holiday with your sister today?

You've suddenly been offered a private contract job in Iraq after working as a bouncer at weekends?

I do that at the moment but no I used to work as a contractor when I lived in South Africa I grew up out there came back to the uk in 2007

You've suddenly been offered a private contract job in Iraq after working as a bouncer at weekends?

ROFL

Failed wannabe Royal Marine, failed SIA door person yet you reckon you could be a mercenary in Iraq ?

Allergic to doors? Awkward!

Are they still recruiting for mercenaries in Iraq OP? It's just that my mum's a bit strapped for cash at the moment so I might tell her to apply for it

Was she working as a waitress in a cocktail bar when she met you?

Highly convenient that her dream also involved 3 months away so you can feel justified

Wotcha Walt

Money is tight and she has gone on holiday with your sister who doesn't work? Not that tight then?