I have a 9yr old daughter and split with her dad when she was 3, he has her once a week and I have always encouraged it as I believe she is half his and I would never have that right.
My issue is he has never paid a penny for her upbringing, friends have always said I should of not allowed this but i think due to me ending the relationship I felt some guilt and in turn allowed this it’s not at a point where I clearly see he has massively took advantage of my kindness. My daughters dad has never given me a penny toward anything not clothes uniform everyday needs nothing I don’t dispute the one day a week he has her he is good with her but that is not paying towards her upbringing and everyday needs, he has a good job earning £500+ weekly so it isn’t a affordability issue he just doesn’t and I have never pushed it as I find it embarrassing to ask and I am stubborn and have the attitude if he doesn’t want to offer I wouldn’t embarrass myself. I have always be financially secure and not needed his help but my situation has changed and I have mentioned it to him needing help 5-6 times in the last 6 months and he has just changed the subject and brushed it off totally ignoring it. I’m so annoyed by him that I’m not considering going to csa and also want to know about options to recover backpay due to his total disrespect and actions . I do know this is half my own fault but I need advice on csa and options of how to recover backpay please