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jack19972 · 21/02/2019 12:29

i have a partner who does not live with me but he visits me daily as i need him to help me do things as i cannot do them myself in the house. he helps me with my shopping and cooking meals for myself and daughter. he does not contribute to any bill paying or food buying. He does not work or claim benefits but the dwp want to stop my esa can they do this it is makeing me ill with worry.

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dementedpixie · 21/02/2019 12:58

What reason have they given for wanting to stop it? Have you had a letter?

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jack19972 · 21/02/2019 13:58

They said that they believe my partner lives with me but he does not they sent me a letter to attend an interview

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MyDcAreMarvel · 21/02/2019 14:02

Get proof of your partner’s address or bills council tax and take them with you. Also take your own bills as they will only be in your name. Tell them the truth he comes round but does not contribute financially or leave there. Call him your boyfriend not partner in interview.

dementedpixie · 21/02/2019 14:50

Yes, collect proof of his actual address and show bills in your name.

minieggsqueen · 21/02/2019 14:52

How did they find out helps you (as I assume that's why they think he's living with you)? Did you mention he's there everyday?

Yes take his proof of address.

minieggsqueen · 21/02/2019 14:52

Maybe you should also look into getting some professional paid help? If you cannot manage to shop (online shopping can be great) or cook meals for your daughter you need help.

ems137 · 21/02/2019 15:06

It's not just about living with each other any more. I would be very careful about what you tell them. Make sure you can prove he has his own place with rent and bills and that you pay for everything for your own house, including shopping.

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jack19972 · 21/02/2019 16:16

The thing is he lives with his cousin and his cousin owns the house. My boyfriend does not pay rent or bills at the moment as he is not receiving any benefit and he is not working. He is waiting on his money coming from his early retirement so he has nothing at the moment just what his cousin has gave him.

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ivykaty44 · 23/02/2019 11:57

He would surely have a bank account, pension letters showing his current address, a driving licence would also be in his current address.

When he moved from his previous address he would have informed council tax of his new address, even if he wasn’t to be made liable at the new address - so any mail from them would have his cousins address

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jack19972 · 23/02/2019 13:57

He has a driving licence in his old address but I let him get his mail sent to my address

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MyDcAreMarvel · 23/02/2019 15:03

but I let him get his mail sent to my address
Then it’s unlikeky they will believe he doesn’t live with you.

MyDcAreMarvel · 23/02/2019 15:03

*unlikely

Youmadorwhat · 23/02/2019 15:08

So his bills go to your house it he doesn’t live there?? He lives with a cousin but doesn’t pay rent? He helps you but not financially (so you say) to be honest it sounds like the two of you are trying to get the best of both worlds 🙄

AlexaShutUp · 23/02/2019 15:13

Does he stay over at your house? Eat with you? Tbh, given that his mail is being sent to your house rather than his cousin's house, it sounds like yours is his primary home.

ivykaty44 · 23/02/2019 15:25

If he’s living with his cousin why would he have his mail sent to his girlfriends address?
It’s up to a £1000 fine for not having the correct address on your driving licence - why would he risk that and not get it changed to the correct address?

Ylvamoon · 23/02/2019 15:31

I believe it is fraudulent... he must spend a considerable amount of time at your house. Think about it he is cooking at least one meal/ day & I bet he is eating that meal with you. You also say he is helping with your DD... in what sense? Because if he collects her from school regularly helping with bedtime or getting her up in the morning... than he must be living with you. You can't have all the cake and eat it!

LovingLola · 23/02/2019 15:32

It sounds very fishy.
He has no bills to his address with his cousin.
His post comes to your address. Why did you come to that arrangement?
Surely you can see why you are being reviewed?

GertrudeCB · 23/02/2019 15:34

KanielOutis · 23/02/2019 15:43

I work in a department that assesses 'main residence'. If he has his post to your address and literally nothing to link him anywhere else, yours will be considered his home address. Especially if he has credit linked to your address. He tells them at the point of application where he lives. Not where he would like his post to be sent to, where he lives.

MaybeitsMaybelline · 23/02/2019 15:43

How long has he been living off his cousin rent free? Who feeds him? And how long has he not been working?

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jack19972 · 23/02/2019 15:51

He doesn't have bills in his name his cousin pays the bills. My boyfriend does not claim benefits so how can we be wanting the best of both worlds if he has no money to contribute

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Youmadorwhat · 23/02/2019 15:55

You can't have all the cake and eat it!

THIS exactly!

anniehm · 23/02/2019 16:24

If he has no income then filling in a joint application won't hurt will it? If his post comes to you they have every reason to claim he lives with you.

Ylvamoon · 23/02/2019 20:17

The best of both worlds: - council tax reduction - he gets to live for free - he has no pressure to get a job even though he is of working age - you get free help (maybe some of the money you get is for paid help if you can't do certain jobs around the house.) -You receive full benefits for a single person ( which depending on circumstances is more than a joint claim if one is fit to work) ...

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