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my son not eating the food at nursery what should i do?

38 replies

robsters · 30/01/2019 12:09

so we put our son into a nursery they insist on no pack lunch and that we pay for food however he not eating it there and now there getting funny with me that the invoices they sent for the food are not paid yet but given he only start 7th jan being a business owner myself usually you have the right to pay within 30days and its not even 30 days yet since first invoice and already invoicing me again for feb again for food he not even eaten yet, advise on what i should do because feels wrong my son hungry all day and me paying for food he not even getting benefit of and we have to make him lunch as soon as he gets home as he telling us his tummy hurts.

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Thatmum · 31/01/2019 07:10

When she's asking you to reapply each term does she mean applying for the free 30 hours? I know you used to have to do that here, not sure if you still do though.

caughtinanet · 31/01/2019 10:16

What kind of place is this - is it a privately run day nursery, your descriptions have confused me

What are you applying each term?

And, seriously, lose the attitude or of course you're not going to get on well with them at all

QforCucumber · 31/01/2019 15:51

If it's the 30 hours then yes you have to reapply each term, we do too (even though we have a 10 year old BMW)

We also have to pay for the other weeks of the year to keep Ds's place open,
I think it does look as though you're taking something very personally which has not meant to be, these are just the way nurseries work.

WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 01/02/2019 09:32

If it's the 30 hours then yes you have to reapply each term, we do too (even though we have a 10 year old BMW)

Grin
rainbowunicorn · 01/02/2019 09:39

You sound very unpleasant and rude in your posts OP. I doubt very much that they are looking down on you due to the car you drive or your household income.
If you are speaking like this to the staff at the nursery they will be very glad to see the back of you when you move your child. You seem to have a massive chip on your shoulder

Skimmedmilk1 · 03/02/2019 08:41

If you talk to them like you do on this post they'll be glad to be shot of you. Nursery terms are always pay a month in advance - do that or leave. You don't have the right to pay 30 or 90 (!) days later. Read the contract you signed.

MaverickSnoopy · 03/02/2019 11:52

It is normal for childcare to be paid for in advance. I think you would really struggle to find any childcare provider that didn't ask for payment in advance, although some may exist.

DH has been a chef in children's nurseries for over a decade. He says it's very normal for children to take a while to settle in and not want to eat at first. How long has he been there? Even a couple of months wouldn't be surprised abnormal. Conversely my 2yo often goes through fussy stages at home where she doesn't want to eat and has done for about 6 months - just the way that little ones can be. Bear in mind that if you're feeding him as soon as you get home, then he's probably hanging on for that because it's what he knows best. So there's no incentive for him to change his preferences. I agree you need to work with the nursery on this.

When our DC1 first started nursery (same one DH worked at) she refused the food there (his cooking, which ironically he was cooking at home too and she was eating!). After a while she started to eat the food at nursery. A later phase showed that she then refused food at home (again, DH still cooking in both places). Children will eat when they want to and you can't MAKE them change their habits. Just go with it, life will be easier all round. He will eat when he's hungry. But no you can't get cross with nursery that he's not eating and they are charging you for it. Imagine if no child ate and they didn't charge any of the parents - the nursery footing the bill for uneaten food could see them closing down (seriously DH was telling me about the cost of food for his nursery chain and it was into the millions).

Tiredeyes21 · 03/02/2019 12:00

You are running the risk of being fined by the nursery for late payment OP, my sons nursery fees are due on the 15th of the month, the invoice comes on the 1st for the month and you are billed a month in advance. For late payment they reserve the right to charge you for these.

Read the terms and conditions you wil have signed and these will stipulate about payments.

Realistically give the nursery a chance, pay your bills on time and you will all get on fine.

Tiredeyes21 · 03/02/2019 12:03

I would also imagine they can’t guarantee his place as you aren’t paying what you owe them!

PolarBearDisguisedAsAPenguin · 03/02/2019 12:06

If you don’t pay or continue to pay late, you might well find your son no longer has a place at nursery and other nurseries will find out and you could struggle to him a place elsewhere as well.

Lots of children take a while to settle in. It took DD1 the best part of three months before she would reliably eat at nursery. The best thing for them is to eat the same thing with their peers and if your DS still isn’t eating anything after Easter, I would think again but some children are fussy (it’s normal) and it is important to get the right childcare setting for them but you also need to work with the nursery and you need to pay - whether the food is eaten or not, as it is still part of your fees!

GertrudeCB · 03/02/2019 12:28

Oh dear , you are that parent

IMissGin · 03/02/2019 12:53

I drive a Range Rover and I still pay my nursery fees in advance on the last day of the month. Do payment terms get longer if I buy an Aston Martin?

Brittanyspears · 03/02/2019 12:57

imissgin yes up to 90 days and food free Grin

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