Sneaky ways to help struggling friend

[Bailey29]

I have a friend who's struggling financially and am looking for ideas to help her out without it looking obvious. I've gently offered money but she won't accept any. I wondered about turning up with some shopping, but she'd probably be onto me straight away! She has a dog so I wondered about offering a big sack of dog food that mine had turned their nose up at... other than that, I'm struggling. Any sneaky ideas?

I would say you make it clear she can come to you for help and leave it at that. Anything else could be misconstrued as offensive.

You do sound like a lovely friend but not everyone wants to accept help.

Can you invite her round for lunch or dinner? One less meal for her to have to buy then.

Have you perhaps won some gift vouchers for a shop/product you don't use but she does (eg pet food)?
Did you win a meat hamper but don't have room in your freezer?

My in-laws come for dinner every week - they bring a meal for us all with enough for leftovers. It's a great help

I would try and give her vouchers you've been given but won't use.

You've had a windfall (bonus or something) and want to take her for a night out?

What a nice friend you are.

You placed an online food shop order and they delivered it twice? You can't return it coz it's food, don't have space for it so she simply must take take it?

Could you buy a £££ supermarket shopping voucher and anonymously post it to her?

I would say invite her round for dinner, cook enough for there to be plenty of left overs and offer her some to take home?

The dog food idea good too.

Supermarket vouchers of a supermarket you don't use and say it was an unwanted Xmas pressy.
Likewise a clothes shop you never shop in or some cinema vouchers.

Some great ideas, thank you!

She's been a good friend to me over the years and helped with lots of advice. She's such a genuine person who deserves to be happy.

I once just put £50 through my mates door b cause I knew she would except it. She has no idea it was me

I like the idea of inviting her round and sending her home with lots of leftovers - that would make a difference. That's the kind of thing I've done if I know a friend is struggling.

Posting cash through the door would be a nice thing too!

I think you have to be subtle about it though!

Could you help her find ways to boost her income?

She's proud and will see through most of these. Inviting her for dinner is a good one though. What about being direct. Don't offer to pay for essentials but extras? Insist in taking her or the kids out or taking her kids on a day where you pay? Or offer to add her to your netflix/Spotify account ext? It's not as useful as actual food and bills, but might be easier to accept and will make life.better during a time of financial difficulty?

Put £ through her letter box!