I need advice on my situation because I’m confused.
4 and a bit years ago while I was 6 months pregnant with my little girl my bf left me. He couldn’t give me a reason, we had no problems before I was pregnant and well he just started ignoring me and then he left.
Skip ahead 2 years, I’ve found a house before little girl arrived, finished my degree, got a full time job got and lost a bf and about to start my masters degree… and then.. the dad (who is a fabulous father) wants me back.
I forgive him even though I never actually got an apology.
He moves himself in right away (using the key I gave to his mother for emergencies) but I was fine with that.
I told him to stop giving me the £200 he was giving me for my child every month because it felt weird to still have maintenance and as we wanted to book a big trip to Japan he said he would just start putting it to a holiday fund.
He never offered to pay any bills or give me money for anything. He does all the driving but shopping and days out are very much split (if anything I would over compensate for him driving and pay for the days food etc)
My bills are £900 for rent, council tax and house related bills (not childcare or my mobil etc)
Last year Jan I didn’t have a job for two months but using my student loan I still covered all the bills until I got my current job.
Back in October after seeing he’s not putting enough away for the holiday fund I said things need to change.
I said he had to make the house over all more equal (because I also do most of the cleaning and all the school runs… without a car)
HE has tried with the cleaning but I still do most of it, but trying is good.
He was planning on quitting his job because the commute was too much and he wants to train to be a teacher ( I fully support that) but he now uses it as an excuse not to pay equal.
He left his job just before Christmas without a job set up to go into. Yesterday after I asked him what job searching he had done he had only applied fo one job and gone out with his brother.
He also hasn’t finalised any training for September.
Am I being a complete mug? Because it feels like it.
I don’t know what to do.