Ex partner being bitter

[Butilovehim1]

So long story short. Recently moved out of my abusive relationship. I have been here before. Last time I took the children I Contacted csa and arranged payments as soon as my ex seen how much he would have to pay me he told me he would rather quit his job then give me money he then took the kids from me abs out of my house. Few months down the line stupid I know for an easy life we sorted things out.... Well I'm back at the beginning he kicked me out after violence and I've now got my own home. Moving in next week. We share childcare half and half. And all I've asked is for half of the kids expenses so is just £60 a month to help me. He said that I get enough as I get working tax credits and that he will not pay anything. He allresdy gets half of my child benefit. So If I went through csa with how much he had then he would need to pay me£150 a month but I honestly am so scared to claim incase he takes the kids what do u do?????

If you have them 50:50 he doesn't have to pay you anything.

We have them 3 nights one week and 4 nights another I have them every day from school and on his days I drop them off at 6:30 he only every has them fully every other weekend when I'm working. He does need to pay as child maintenance have confirmed. He don't feed them he don't buy them clothes he don't pay for their breakfast clubs as to what he uses too to get to work and he doesn't pay for their hobbies just his house

First step is for you to get both/all child benefit in your name and then evidence that you gave them more overnights.

If nights are split equally my understanding as that they will look at more detail into the actual time they spend in each home. CMS and child benefit.

Do you work? How much tax credits do you get? He does have a point that if you get tax credits for both, he is compromising. You could apply to csa and get £150 but if you work, he could also claim something from you and if he claimed tc for one child, even if he got next to nothing compared to you, it would still be money you won't get any longer.

I think you need to think hard about doing something that could come to bite you.

I believe the courts only care about where the child/children sleep, so even if you collect them first thing in the morning, give the breakfast, get them washed and dressed and drop them off at school, collect them from school, give them dinner, do their homework with them, get them bathed and in their PJs and the drop them back at his at bed time it still counts as his day as far as CSA/court are concerned.

He clearly knows this so is manipulating the situation so that he isn’t made to pay any maintenance, as when residency is 50/50 no maintenance for anyone is the standard.

Personally I’d stop, if he wants the DCs 50/50 he needs to be collecting them from school and sorting them out on his days, if he needs to used breakfast/after school club he needs to sort it out and pay for it, most schools will let you set up separate arrangements.

If he can’t/won’t have the DCs fully then it goes to EOW and he pays maintenance like most fathers.