Wedding Contributions

[Clueless20something]

I have a dilemma.

I'm constantly reading about people asking guests to pay for attending weddings which I do think is a bit much.

However, I've been thinking about the car to get to the venue and I have quite a few bridesmaids and family that I would like to travel with (not close to my dad so don't want a car just the two of us as he isn't giving me away).

I've been thinking about a big red London style bus because that could fit everyone. I've been quoted £750 which is a lot of money, especially considering we were hoping to keep it a relatively low cost money and not waster money.

I didn't know if it would be unreasonable to ask the bridesmaids/family etc that would be travelling in it to contribute? It would work out around £50-£75 per person/ group e.g mum and step dad classed as one.

I've already said I'll only pay about £50 towards my bridesmaids outfits so they are possibly going to have to pay towards that.

There's just so many things now because some people don't think it's cheeky to ask because it's an old fashioned tradition that the bride/bride's family pay for everything but at the same time, I don't want people to think I'm taking the piss because it's basically just me that wants to do that and we could all just get tax's!

Personally I think it's your wedding, your choice and therefore you should pay for your choices and not be asking others to contribute.

The bill for getting bridal party from home to ceremony has always fallen to the bride or her family. So I think this is not something you bill to your guests, including special guests such as bridesmaids.

I wouldn't, no, it's your choice, not a necessary thing for the wedding.

And I would be paying for the bridesmaids dresses unless you are happy for them to have a free choice in what they are wearing!

Your choice - you pay. If it’s too expensive for your budget, change your plans.

Why are you only paying £50 towards your bridesmaids dresses. Do they have free choice on the dress they are wearing?

How much would each group pay in a taxi or public transportation?

Your wedding is too expensive for your budget.

Definitely not ok to ask people to contribute. I was a bridesmaid to my sister and she only booked car for her and my dad. Bridesmaids and pageboys just drove to the wedding with their families. If you want the bridesmaids etc to travel with you then you have to provide and pay for the transport.

Absolutely not

I would never have expected my bridesmaids to pay a penny towards their dresses! Is this considered acceptable now?

Absolutely not and very cheeky to only contribute £50 towards their dresses too unless it’s completely their choice. I despair of the amount of money that guests are expected to part with for someone else to have a lavish wedding.

No, this is a terrible idea. Also, if you are only happy to pay £50 for bridesmaids' dresses, they need to be dresses that only cost £50. You can't expect them to subsidise dresses you choose.

Could your dad drive you to your venue along with 2/3 passengers depending on your dress size?

Guests can drive themselves plus they need to get home somehow. Bit difficult to arrange transportation there and say up to you to get home.

Yabu

I'm assuming these bridesmaids are also going to be paying for hen do, wedding present, rest of outfit(!!!) hotel, travel to and from wedding, hair, makeup. Etc etc etc.

Yes, you are being VVVV unreasonable.

No. It's up to you to get the bridal party to the venue

Your wedding. You pay.

I suppose you could say instead of gifts you would love contributions to wedding.
If they are paying for bridesmaids dresses and hen nights etc though I think it's a bit low to ask for more.
I'd be edging to get out of it if it were me.

You really can't do this. It would catapult you straight to the top of cheeky fuckery.

This is so cheeky. Have the wedding you can afford. Don't ask the guests to contribute!! If you cant afford a London bus then don't have one. And's terrible form to ask the bridesmaids to pay for their own dress!! You will cause a lot of resentment if you do this.

Are your bridesmaids given any choice in the dress. You can't really expect them to wear a dress that they have had no say in and be expected to pay fifty quid towards it as well.

No it's not ok to expect guests to fork out for transport either.

Yabu

Actually, is this a joke?

I knew that that would be everyone's response so I did just want to back up my own thoughts! I do think it is a lot and my venue is doing both ceremony and reception so it's not even doing multiple trips! Think I was more thinking if I was offered the option for someone else's wedding then I would pay but only because I think they're cool but I appreciate not everyone would have the same opinion!

Taxi's it is!

In terms of th bridesmaid dresses, they all offered to pay for their own and they do have free reign because they're all different shapes and sizes so one dress is going to suit all of them and I want them all to feel comfortable. As long as they are all a similar colour, I don't mind! Plus we're all frugal so none of us are expecting dresses that cost hundreds and were just going to go out shopping for a day and look on the high street!

You are cheeky! I paid for my bridesmaids dresses and everything else! Cars etc. How can you expect your GUESTS to pay?! If you can't afford it, don't have it!

I paid for bridesmaids dresses, hair and make up and we got cans to the venue as I couldn’t be arsed with the faff