Hi
I would appreciate your guys views on something. I live with my partner and my 18 yr old. We both work and so does my 18yr old. My partner also has an 18yr who lives with her mum. He currently pays his ex £50 a month as his 18yr old is still on apprenticeship. His 18yr old also stays with us Weds night to sat night so has 2 meals a week with us plus we fetch and take her back. My question is, would it be wrong to charge my 18yr old board, say a small amount of £20 a week when we don't take anything from the other and run her about and pay her mum. My frustration is my 18yr old is spending money on stupid stuff living the life of riley and contributing nothing not even the odd job when not at work. She also has her bf stopping over. I understand partner wanting to support his 18yr old as due to college issues she is behind a yr. I just feel like everyone is taking advantage slightly..... my 18yr old living it up, his ex and 18yr old having had one holiday are having another, his 18yr old I know for a fact has a nice nest egg saved in her bank as she never spends anything and then there is us struggling to save for our first holiday together and even that I have managed to get very cheap.
Beside what is going on with exes 18yr old I feel mine should pay her way but i'm torn as I also feel it's unfair to charge her then pay for the other if that makes sense. Or do I treat it as two different issues? Tried talking to partner and he just says his 18yr old doesn't earn much and he thinks her mum is taking money off her, but i know she isn't on that much less than mine. His ex must be rubbing her hands together. I don't want to keep bringing it up as it causes arguments and looks like all I care about is money. I would point out that my partner had not said that my 18yr should pay anything as he can't really charge his. It's not the charging his that bothers me it's the paying his ex that is frustrating me!