Moving back in with mother in law

[Muddlingalongmum95]

I’m feeling so deflated lately !
A lot of things have happened in a very short amount of time,
My baby is currently 3 months old and she is my whole world! I’m suffering badly from PND, so part of my mood is because of that.
Last week I had a meeting about going back to my job in October, and I got told due to not being able to do the 24 hour sleep in shifts (we have no one to have baby in the night as my partner leaves for work at 4am) I have to find myself a new job.
We are getting married in September as well.
We spoke with a nursery about signing baby up when I return to work and it’s going to cost around £500 a month! So due to all of this we are being forced to move in with my mother in law.
I get on really well with her, but I don’t want to leave our home, we’ve spent two years making it ours!
I’m also concerned that she (and his whole family) is very over powering with the baby and like to tell me how and what I should be doing with her.
I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or just wanted somewhere to rant about all of this as I weep I have to keep smiling and saying everything is okay!

Oh how stressful for you
Is there anyway mil could look after the baby when you do your sleep ins?
Or what about moving in with your parents? Perhaps until you find a new job.
I just think that inlaws can be very pushy with their dil over baby, and it could make life very hard for you if you think she’s the type to tell you how it is.
Have you looked into stopping work and any benefits that you may be entitled to? It could be an option for you until you find a job that can fit in with your babies needs.

Thank you 💕
My mil leaves for work early in the morning as well so she can’t have her,
There’s no room at my parents for us, my mil is in a three bedroom house on her own.
I’m in a universal credit area (I deal with benefits as part of my job so know all about it) but when we move in with mil I won’t be entitled to anything,
Our plan is to stay with her for 2 years, pay off any outstanding finances, and save for a mortgage, and it’s the smartest option for us, I just really don’t want to leave our home 😫!
We used to live with mil at the beginning of our relationship when we was teenagers, so I know exactly what I’m getting into 😫

Why do,you have to give your home up. You've got until October to try to find something that you could do when husband is at home? Don't give it up too soon. Explore all your options.

Agree with looking at options before giving up your home. What is the job market like in your area?

have you put in a formal flexible working request to your employers?