Am I being selfish to my two sons to be fantasising of being on my own so that I can have more money for them. With my partner, his two daughters and the boys we live Day to day counting money. When I was a single parent to my eldest I loved how we had so much spare money every month. If I had a good month at work we could have £400 a month spre. I now hate having to live counting the pennies since my partner moved in. When we first got together we went out lids and did a lot because we lived seperatley and could afford to: my partner is so accustomed to life where he doesn't worry about bills and happily spends spends spends that we do argue if I say no we can't afford something. I am not prepared to claim as a single
Parent with him living here.It's not my fault he has to pay out to see his children and for csa. It was his choice to have them. Our relationship is amazing, he lets me go back to bed when he gets home, he cooks breakfast and dinner in bed, shares night feeds with our son, does joint nursery runs etc and we do have a amazing time together. He does half the housework and we are so alike in the tv we watch our relationship is amazing. But every week he goes up to see his daughters it's a argument as he expects more money than we can afford. And it has been rough going with his daughters. I have made a lot of progress and as much as at times I can resent them for their behaviour and things I have learnt how to deal with it. I hate how my boys are going without so much because we are together and for the stepdaughters to have contact etc. Will it get easier... am I just having a bad few months, or am I right feeling selfish. Asides from him paying out for all he does for his kids, even if he didn’t or they didn’t exist then we would still be struggling financially and would still have nowhere near the lifestyle me and my son had when I was a single parent. I didn't even get much in tax credits so it's not that as I worked full time. It's all the things like water bills. It has doubled since he has moved in because he has two baths a day. Electric has nearly doubled because of how much time he spends with the tv on. My food bill has nearly tripled because of all the coke, crisps and food snacks he 'needs.' He gets through a 2lutre bottle of Coke a day! I am sick of feeling like I am the only One to care about how much bills are so that we have more money for the kids. And the only one willing to make sacrifices as he just always wants money for PlayStation vouchers or crap from the shops. I just want to know if anyone else has ever felt this way and it has gotten better. I am Hoping once my youngest is older and I can do more than 18 hours a week that will help too. But for now I just feel like I am depriving my kids of a lot of things: obviously they have all the necessities. But I never wanted for anything as a child, my parents gave us the world and more and that’s all I want for my kids. I can’t even afford to put both boys into swimming lessons, and I feel awful as my eldest went when he turned 1. Will this pass, will money get easier as they get older. I just feeling so low at the moment. Can love over take money?