Ex taken me to court but lied on proceedings form

[pippypoppypanda]

Hi I'm new to mumsnet was hoping to get some advice.
I've posted this on lone parents too but was hoping there might be a solicitor or someone on here.

My 5 month old son's father has filed court proceedings as he wants more contact than we have arranged previously through solicitors. I got the papers this morning and he's said that we split up at such and such a time but we were never a couple.

He has also cited events that haven't happened and which I can prove he is lying about as I have kept a diary of all texts (they are also still on my phone). Will he get away with this?

I have also found out that he is behaving irresponsibly when my son is in his care - he was seen wondering the street with a gang of his friends with my son and they had no pram, one of his frinds was carrying him, and that he has been bad mouthing me for keeping his son from him even though I have offered him to visit any time he will not come here.

I'm going out of my mind with worry if anyone can help I'l be so grateful.

Sorry, I've no advice at all for you, but thought I'd add this so it keeps in the updated file.

Hopefully someone will be along with advice soon.

Fingers crossed for you xx

Hi ppp, sorry to hear your worries. I don't have any real experience of this but did not want your post to go unanswered. (This time of day can be quiet what with school runs/clubs/tea/bed etc..) Keep 'bumping' the thread and hopefully someone will help later. Is it possible to ring CAB and get some advice from them? good luck

Hiya im not a solicitor so this is only my advice

i would suggest that you go and see your solicitor again explain the new stuff that you know show him/her the texts they might help you as for the irresponable behavior unless you have proof of it then you cant really do anything

sorry i cant be of anymore help
i hope it gets sorted soon for the sake of you and your son.

I have a meeting with the family court adviser tomorrow so fingers crossed that goes ok

Good luck hope it goes well for you hun

Thanks its hard not to worry

they always lie, i think courts expect it. let your solicitor know but dont get worked up about it now, you will have to file statements, eveidence etc so you will get to have your say. it is very important you do not lie or exaggerate, my x did it loads but got found out about all of it. im not a solicitor but have been there so i know how you feel. good luck

thanks gg. he has lied about stuff which is in his solicitor letters. I thought surely he couldnt be as silly but there you go!

good luck for tomorrow.
let us know how it goes.

my ex pretty much did all my work for me. my sol told me to just sit back and let him hang himself and he did. sounds like yours might be as clever as mine

Thank you feel much better now I know I can turn here for support.

So what happened with u gg if u don't mind me asking? did your ex make all sorts up to make u look bad?

they accused me of everything you can think of! at the time it was horrible but my solicitor pointed out to me that the only people saying i was a bad parent was them, no one else. they went to the doctor making accusations, social services got so sick of them they actually told them to stop phoning all the time. most upsetting was when they got ds to say nasty things about me. luckily its pretty obvious when a small child is lying and it went against them rather than me, but awful for the kids, just totally unfair to use them like that. in the end the cafcass report supported the contact i offered and the judge went with that. not a pleasant time but worked out for the best. i would not recommend going through court if you can avoid it but sadly sometimes there is no other way. at least your ds wont know anything about it, that is a blessing. hope your meeting goes ok