Unmarried - am I enititled to anything?

[moita]

DP and I took out a mortage in both our names on a house. He has been paying the mortage as we have two children, one of whom with health problems and I'm a SAHM.

He has become increasingly controlling and has made it really difficult for me to return to work.

I want to leave but I have no job and about £2,000 in savings.

What happens to the house if I leave? Am I entitled to anything?

Luckily I have supportive family but I can't believe how stupid I've been.

Is your name on the deeds? If so do you know if you are joint tenants or tenants in common?

Is your name on the deeds?

So house is in joint names That is good
Take Legal advice ASAP

Yes name is on deeds. Would CAB be the best people to contact?

You need to find out if you are joint tenants or tenants in common as it makes a difference.

Thank you. I am going to check this but pretty sure we are joint tenants.

You haven't been stupid.

I volunteer with CAB. You could try citizens advice but what you need is legal advice. All CAB are different some have links for short advice from family solicitors, others don't.

The important thing is that your name is on the deeds. Here is some info on housing when you separate. What happens to the property depends on how you both settle things. If the children are settled (for example in local schools/GP/medical support then you may stay living in the property.
Just leaving to be safe or get away to think does not mean you are giving up any rights to the home.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/ending-a-relationship/if-you-were-living-together/what-happens-to-your-home-when-you-separate/

Depending on the nature of what your DP does you may want seek support regarding the controlling behaviour. It can be domestic abuse.

rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/violence-against-women-and-international-law/coercive-control-and-the-law/

There are threads on MN, I am not familiar as I haven't experienced it. Apart from emotional support reporting may also allow you to access free legal advice. If you think it's relevant there are links to national organisations which may be able to support you whatever you decide

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/gender-violence/domestic-violence-and-abuse-organisations-which-give-information-and-advice/

Thank you so much. Just these replies have meant a lot to me. Definitely need to get my ducks in a row.

I never thought it would come to this but he gives me so little support both with the children and emotional support - I know I'd be happier without him. Plus my parents would help out with childcare if I left him which would enable me to get back in to work.

Thanks again.