So this is how it is.
I've been paying his £37 gym membership for a while, I dunno, two years, maybe more. It started out I'd pay for a month for him and it just seemed to be expected to carry on. I've done it because I knew he was struggling with his health and I'm a caring friend. I ask for a babysit in return, but this has probably happened every other month, not monthly, and is never offered.
A couple of months ago, he changed his bank account. I mistakenly made the payment into his old account, and I didn't realise the payment had bounced back. He then tells me it's taken him overdrawn and he'll get charges. I explain that he can call them (as we've discussed before) explain and ask for the charges to be waived. He asked if I would do it for him, and I said they wouldn't deal with me as it was his account.
So he eventually comes back to me, says the bank have said it's a fair charge and tough. I remind him there's a formal complaints procedure, and he says okay but he's no money left to buy food. So I offer to pay for a basic shop for him. He says can I just transfer £15 because he's going shopping with a friend!
I explain my outgoings til my next pay day, and say if I get him some shopping I can put it on my credit card. He says okay, but he'll have to borrow money from another friend.
Later he messaged me to say his friend's money arrived late and now he can't get his weekend 'treat' 'f***g brilliant,' as though this is all my fault. I checked his FB page to see he'd just been to visit a friend in another town and bought a gift for their new baby. AIBU to feel used?