Messed up money wise but can't really talk to anyone!

[paranoidpammywhammy2]

I've potentially really messed up and the people I can talk to really don't support my independence. I've talked to them a little and they seemed to be gloating about it when things initially started to go wrong.

They aren't happy I didn't take their advice and don't approve of my decisions even though most things work out well and I generally do well.

I just don't quite know how to cope with waiting to see if it turns out OK. I've done all I can. The waiting is unbearable.

Take a few deep breaths. Tell us some more info about the situation and remember things always look better in the morning after some rest.

can you explain a little more? (Someone might be able to point you in the right direction for advice/ support then)

I don't really want to give any details as I've been a bit stupid. I will find out in around three-four weeks and then there really isn't much I can do.

I don't regret my decision but I regret not fully researching one area. I could have avoided the problem.

I may lose £1,500 which I can deal with. I'm struggling with the waiting. I was given wrong advice on timescales and I'm powerless to do anymore. Today I researched to find out exactly my position and there are no guarantees.

I've phoned all the right people. I took a small risk - but it's turned out to be larger than I anticipated. Everything could still turn out OK.

Well, good luck. Hope it works out.

There really isn't any advice I need. I've learnt a valuable lesson to not trust people's word but find out the facts myself.

It's just the next few weeks are going to be hard to deal with. I'm going to have to find something very distracting and really tire myself out physically.

Just typing is helping me deal slightly. Planning what I can control.

This is the oddest post.

There isn't anything anyone can say in reply because we've no idea what's going on or what you need help with. And then you say you don't need any advice... So. Really odd.

Thanks.

The gloating is difficult to handle. I make the right decisions most of the time and so many times they infer I'm making the wrong decisions or don't approve.

They don't want to hear when I'm successful when they've tried to stop me and discouraged me.

It's nothing dodgy/especially risky etc. I've messed up the logistics.

Sorry Avasarala.

It's the waiting, worrying about things I have no control over. It will all come together or it won't.

Is this a business thing?

If it's a business mistake, then don't worry. We all make those and you will get it back on track. If it's going to affect clients or customers, there are things you can do to sweeten them up and make them ok with it.

If it's a personal thing, then it's no one else's business. As long as you will still be financially ok with the loss then move on from it. Just make your plans for the future assuming the worst. If it works out better, then it's just a bonus but you will be fine either way.

You don't have a financial problem, you have a people problem. I'm guessing parents?

Thanks. More personal. I think I got a bit over confident in my abilities and a bit lax about timescales. I take a few too many risks and generally manage to pull it off.

I think it's been a good lesson. Things could be so much worse. It's an expensive mistake at the worst.

Gloating parents.

It's one small step backwards. Overall I've done well. I need to get it in perspective.

Unless they are giving you the money, it's nothing to do with them. You've said everything else has worked out, so this one thing is the exception, not the rule. And you'll most likely manage to fix it.

Nothing wrong with taking risks, as long as they are calculated. Take more time over things in future; don't let yourself get carried away in a rush to do something.

I've found a bit more information to read through which is actually quite encouraging. I'm going to get some sleep then re read in the morning and see where I am.

The more informed I am, the better I can deal with things.

So everything worked out OK in the end except my parents aren't speaking to me! They are angry I didn't involve them in decisions that have nothing to do with them.