Hi
I have been with my partner for 6 years, engaged for 3 of those. We each have a child from previous marriages (mine 12, his 19). His lives with his ex wife and mine lives with us (my 12 year old refuses to see his father).
We agreed I would stop working (I used to work 50+ hours a week) a few years ago. He has done very well and offered to give me an allowance on place of my salary. At the time it seemed perfect (we weren't engaged yet). But the more I think about it, the more time passes- the more I feel that it doesn't work. We don't share a home, everything is in his name and I don't get enough to save after all the costs of food and bills are paid.
Yes, I would 100% go back to work but he doesn't want that as he has retired and wants me to be home. I fill my time with looking after home and everyone in it plus I do a fair bit of volunteer work (which he dislikes).
Whenever I bring up money he takes it as a complaint and gets very passive aggressive and reminds me that I am better off now than where I was when we met as a single mother. Albeit, I was making a decent living- nothing extravagant.
I don't know what to do. I don't even know if I am right anymore in thinking that this isn't right.
What do you think?
Thank you for reading.
M