struggling

[kelpie10]

I have a 4yr old boy and 19yr old girl. Since July my daughter has been out of work and against my constant nagging would not sign on, wanted to live off of her savings because of this any money i got for her benefit wise stopped and although i have told council she is on nil income I have lost my housing and council tax benefit. Ive come close to eviction ive now no savings and after bills I only have £35 to live on. I am stressed beyond belief and become severely depressed. My daughter got a job offer in october and still waiting for a start date as working with kids the checks are endless I dont know what to do please help.

I’m afaid you need to do more than nagging!

If your DD won’t sign on then she will have to move out!

Have you actually sat her down and showed her the figures?

You need to sit down and tell her honestly, as PP show it her in black and white. Can't she pick up some cleaning/waitressing/bartender jobs?

Why has it stopped you getting housing help when you have a 4 year old?

And why is it taking so long for her to start the job? I know dbs can take a while but Oct to Jan? I don’t think so! Are you sure she definitely has the job? Can you apply for discretionary housing money?

My DBS took about one week, my husband who's a teacher took about 2 and that's an enhanced check. It doesn't add up!

DBS really doesn't take that long, especially for a 19 year old! Has she actually given them all the right documents?

In the meantime, yes, she should look for another job and contribute.

You say she was 'living off her savings', presumably she used her savings to pay you rent and pay for her own food, and is still doing so? If not, she moves out. She can rent a room. She'll need to sign on and get her own benefits. But you can move somewhere smaller or take a paying lodger!

Anyway, try going to the Citizens Advice Bureau with all your bank statements and bills and see what they can suggest. Can you do any overtime at work, or have you got anything you can sell - a car boot sale maybe? (sell your daughter's clothes!)

if she does move out with friends will this help you or does she assist with child care? do you work and can you increase your income?