Abroad family wedding - I can't afford it :( please help!!!!

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My brother is getting married abroad next year. we are a family of four on one income and are already fighting to try to pay off debt. Flights are coming in at £800. We can't afford it. What do I do. I'm in tears. Everyone else in my family has loads of money, or at least more than us. This is going to cripple us.

Go on your own?

Tell them you can't go. They wouldn't/ shouldn't want you to put yourself under more pressure.

I had tooss my sister's wedding last year for the same reasons. I felt crappy but she understood.

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You say you are really sorry, but you can't afford to go. Pretty shit of your brother

Is there any way you could afford for just you to go? If not, just explain the situation and don't go. It's not worth putting yourself into debt for.

Gin it's not necessarily shit of her brother - he may be marrying someone from another country. My sister married an Australian. All his family had to fly to the UK to be at the wedding, it was either that or all of us facing flying to Australia.

That's the risk you run if you marry abroad - that it may be prohibitively expensive for some people to attend. I think you just let them know you won't be able to.

Just phone your brother and say that sadly you aren't going to be able to join them as you simply don't have the money.
It is what happens when you choose to marry abroad - people will often not be able to come.

If it is really going to upset you, then think about going on your own, but, if I were paying off debts, and struggling to afford to live month by month, I wouldn't be spending money going abroad for a wedding, however sad I'd be to miss my brother's wedding.

You go on your own and for a short time. I know you'd be disappointed not to have the family there and go without them but it's your brothers wedding and you need to be there if you anyway can. If you can't afford it even on your own, you tell him. He will have to understand as he made the choice to do it abroad.

I'm so upset. I'm really close to my brother and we're a very tight knit family. I'd be gutted to miss it. I've told my mum that I won't be able to afford it and I'm being made to feel like I'm just being a problem child and creating a drama intentionally.

It's rubbish when everyone else has more money, they just can't relate.

Go on your own if you can afford it.

If not, be honest and explain it's not an option unfortunately. It will have occurred to him, unless he for some reason thinks you're well off.

Your mother is being very unpleasant. If you can't afford to go, it is sad, but that is the risk your brother took when he decided to get married abroad.
Hold your head up high. You aren't being difficult.

Speak to your brother, not your mum. Especially if she's not very understanding

Thanks for your advice. I think I'll talk to my brother and take it from there.

Don't go. They can Skype it.

Either go on your own or don't go. Stand up for yourself and don't get guilted into spending money you don't have

You mustn't get into debt for this.

We didn't go to a family wedding abroad because we didn't have the money to go. I get a few pangs about it sometimes, but I know I would have felt worse spending money I couldn't afford.

I agree that I can't go along with this and let it financially cripple us. It's not the right time to talk to my brother for many reasons but I'll talk to him in the next couple of weeks.

Don't go. Had the same issue told my Brother and he wanted us there so changed their plans - helped that my siblings couldn't go either.

I for one wouldn't go into debt for anything like this.