Annoyed

[Saskiav2]

So myself, best friend and two other friends have had a night out planned to celebrate three of our birthdays since early June. My best friend sold her house in May but still agreed to come along with us and I kept her posted every step of the way when the apartment was booked how much she owed etc and I booked a Groupon deal for the four of us for a 2 course meal too both are none refundable. Today she messaged me to say that the house sale completion date is the Friday before our night out so she can't make it and it is going to cost the girls more. I replied back stating that is unfair expecting us to all pay for her two of us don't work and she should still pay even though she isn't coming. Am I right here?

Have you asked her to still pay for the meal?
I guess your opinions are
Invite someone else
Ask her to pay
Accept the loss
It depends how much it is, will it sour your friendship, will it be worth it for a few pounds.id be annoyed too but if it was me I'd definitely offer my share even if I wasn't going
In future make sure you ask for payment as soon as you have paid groupon

The fact that 2 of you don't work is neither here nor there - if she owes you the money, you could have no money or loads - no difference.

Depends how clear you were from the start that she was agreeing to non refundable activities.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, but I do agree that it was a little silly for you to not get the money at the time of booking.

Now it's simply dependent on how far you want to push it at the risk of you falling out over it.

How much does she owe you?

She ows me £18.75 but my other friend she ows £60 that's the one I was more concerned about.

You need to decide if she is worth ruining a friendship over £18.75.

What she owes your other friend is none of your concern.
Have you asked her to pay for the meal

I personally wouldn't book anything until I had collected the money

I agree, don't chase the £60, that's a decision your other friend needs to make.
Have you had any response now that you've mentioned you're out of pocket??

Sorted she has paid both of us after me explaining very tactfully that she still needed to pay even though she can't come

So each of you would have to pay £25 more? Maybe ask friend if she can go halves unless she was previously told it was non refundable when booked. 2 not working isn't relevant, she will have expenses of moving, there s always something.

@Saskiav2 ah, I'm pleased for you. Now you can enjoy yourself without any bitterness over the weekend xx

That sounds like the right outcomes me. I'm glad your explanation worked well.