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PasswordInvalid · 12/07/2017 16:11

Quick background as I don't want to drop feed.
DD left home to live with her BoyF when she was 16 it wasn't an easy split between us, but then shit happens. They managed to find a flat and claimed as much benefit as they could. He even claimed DLA for stress, depression and anxiety. Probably brought on by all the weed that was consumed (Please don't read this as a slur against people that suffer with S,D & A because I myself am a severe sufferer but I dont claim for it) Anyway last week they split up and she has moved back home. He's been on the phone today threatening her with small claims court because he says she owes him money. She's been hysterical. Now I didn't fall from the Christmas tree and I know she's not blameless in anything. She can be sly and deceitful and the sun hasn't shone out of her arse for a few year. But..... the housing benefit was in his name apparently but paid into her account. As was the PIP and careers allowance (WTF!)
PIP was paid in on the 29th when they were still together so that was withdrawn and spent on "allegedly" getting to and from work and food. But the housing benefit was still paid in.
She's not angel in all this but my question is, is he in a legal position to demand money from her (she transferred £150 to him on Friday, 2 days after they had split.
I do hope this makes sense.

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/07/2017 16:14

Is the legal position what is relevant here? Surely morally she shouldn't be nicking his housing benefit?

rightwhine · 12/07/2017 16:17

The housing benefit was paid for the house. Therefore it should be spent on the rent.

Yes she owes him the money.

PasswordInvalid · 12/07/2017 16:28

Thank you. So with the HB being £181 and she's already sent £150 to him, she owes him £31. The PIP is irrelevant because they were together and everything was fine then?

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/07/2017 16:31

She needs to stop the benefits being paid into her account doesn't she? Presumably the boy is struggling to open a bank account, or struggling to get access to his own. Would you be bothered to point him in the right direction?

PasswordInvalid · 12/07/2017 16:34

He's only recently opened a bank account apparently. She said she's already phoned them because he had to be there to authorise her to speak with them. And nope I wouldn't help him. But that reason is a whole different kettle of fish.

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/07/2017 16:46

Well hopefully you and your Dd will get the chance to rebuild your relationship now.

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