Memorial for my baby

[Tryingtoconceive2years]

A bit of a strange one really - I lost my baby at 12 weeks back in September and a bit of a long story but its currently in my freezer. Short story is hospital lost the remains and I demanded them back.

I was a memorial tree at the cematory - when I can plant the remains. - this is £2500 after the huge tax the council put on it.

We sadly as a family cant fund this, after the stresses and time in hospital I have gone part time as I am still very sad. Looking for Ideas to raise money, I have a gofundme - dont hate me?

I am quite crafty so any suggestions of things I could make and sell?

or anything else would be amazing, please please no nasty comments I cant take it.

Sorry to hear that but surely in your freezer isnt right?

Can you do a cremation? Gofundme would easily raise this

Well I demanded that they signed the remains over to me in the plan to have a cremation and then they would not provide the paperwork in order by law to do this.

The idea of planting the remains outside really isn't something I Would like to do as we rent so it isn't forever.

I have had the gofundme up for a while and raised £300 and its at at stop now. If you can see anything I can do to make it more appealing to donate please let me know - www.gofundme.com/34ubo4w

I lost my baby last year at 8 weeks at a friends house.

We lit the wood burner and after wrapping it in a box and saying some words we placed it inside.
A chance to say hello and goodbye and some closure.

Never crossed my mind to have somewhere to go and remember it when i am hardly likely to forget. .
I realise everyone grieves different so sorry for your loss.
But stressing about money after everything else is just unnecessary imo. .

I'm sorry for your loss. Can you do something similar but different? Plant something that will do well in a pot, then put the remains in there. You could plant it in the ground if / when you have your forever home. Olive trees, and Bay Trees are happy in big pots and last many many years.

Our local cemetery wouldn't allow you to plant a tree. There are different rules dependant on the area and the age of the churchground. Is it worth looking to see if somewhere else will let you do it cheaper?

Well your gofundme says you can get a rose bush for £400. I don't mean to be unsupportive but surely worrying about raising a huge amount of money for a tree can't be doing you any good just now?

Whether you have a tree a rosebush or something else (or even nothing physical like that) you will always remember your little baby.

bonzo77 - I like that idea if a big pot of something to take with us, would it be easy to eventually plant it?

CaulkheadUpNorf - The crematory is where we got the idea of the tree from, they have an official price - list for you pick

I understand that, just suggesting you look at other cemeteries.

I'd probably do the rose bush you mention though, or a plant in a tub at home.

Sorry for your loss.

I lost a baby at 10 weeks a few months ago.

As we plan to move in the future, we buried it in a plant pot, with the plan to take it with us when we move.

We used the bottom half for the baby, then put a layer of weed control fabric, then planted a rose bush in the top half, in case we need to change the plant (I'm not very green fingered!)

The whole thing cost less than £100, so should be a lot more affordable for you.

@trying, yes I think they transfer fine. Do some research, I think olives in the U.K. prefer to stay in the pot long term. I moved a bay tree from pot to ground and it's really very happy. It was a tiny twig with just a few leaves and now it's a big bush.

Thank you for your help everyone, I have some good ideas now :)