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ex owes me money....any advice????

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 12:33

my ex borrowed over £3000 off me over some time, is there anything i can do to make him pay me back, bearing in mind he's threatening to burn my house down if i persue it

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Darciesmum · 13/03/2007 13:51

see a solicitor or go to CAB for advice hun x

wheresthevalium · 13/03/2007 13:58

Report the threat to the Police. It's doubtful they will be interested in the fact that he owes you money, but they will at least record what he has said.

and what Darciesmum said

Darciesmum · 13/03/2007 14:07

Agree with wheresthevalium report him for the threats

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 14:18

But he's said if he hears from me at all again, he will make sure i pay! i have text messages to prove all of this but will the police take them seriously?

does anyone know of an organisation i can contact?

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wheresthevalium · 13/03/2007 16:42

Was your relationship abusive?

Why not try contacting the police/CAB over the phone, he wont know about it, unless they decide to go and arrest him?

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 17:41

Not abusive as such, he pushed me over a couple of times and once i cut my head open and had to have stitches, and another time smashed my kitchen window, but i didn't tell the police who it was.

if i leave him alone he will probably leave me alone, but i borrowed that money off my mum and he took nearly all of it, as a single parent, their is no way i can pay her back.

i'm also pg with his child, and i daren't even tell his parents or even claim maintenance as i don't know what he''ll do.

should i just cut my losses and pay back what i can to my mum??

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DominiConnor · 13/03/2007 17:43

You've got evidence, certainly the police can act upon that.
The police have the ability to record conversations made on the phone, they can trivially get evidence that way. Things that make for easy convictions are popular with the police.

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 18:03

oh yes i've got plenty of evidence, for stuff that could life very difficult for him, the question is, do i dare? could anyone guarentee my dd and i's safety?

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wheresthevalium · 13/03/2007 18:13

I'm sure if you explained the whole situation to the police and said that you fear for your safety then somethng could be done.

What is his attitude to the new baby, or doesn't he know?

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 18:18

without going into too much detail (don't want to upset anyone) he's not interested, i shouldn't keep it and nor he or his family want to hear from me again, in HIS opinion.

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wheresthevalium · 13/03/2007 18:22

Sorry, should have asked before, what about DD?

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 18:25

she's not his child, and he doesn't give a toss about the son he's got with another lady, so he sure has heck doesn't care about my dd

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 20:21

any more advice please?

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wheresthevalium · 13/03/2007 20:21

I reallt think that you need to go to the police with this, do you know where he lives?

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J20BABY · 13/03/2007 20:54

i've rung the domestic violence helpline and they've given me a local number to ring to try and get some help with being moved, or even a refuge

its not about the money anymore, he is making death threats, i don't know how much more i can take

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Darciesmum · 13/03/2007 21:02

hun you have evidence on you phone with threats plz go to the police, he won't know unless they arrest him. spk to you CAB advisor asap they should point you in the rite direction

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