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how can I help/advise my friend who's seperating?

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brimfull · 06/03/2007 19:39

She's been married for nearly 19 yrs.
Her husband said he wanted out about a yr ago now.He had an affair.
She desperately tried to get him to go to counselling but in the end they are splitting up.
They have 3 dc's 18-17 and 15yrs,all still in full time education.
They decided they wnated to do it through mediation.
They agreed on her getting equity of home about £400,000.She wouldn't claim on any of his pension/future earnings.He is hospital consultant.
Now he has said he wants to decrease the child maintenance from £2000 to £1000/month and to reduce the deal of her getting the full equity .
I think she should see a solicitor.She's at rock bottom,and says she can't face the legal battles that would ensue.
How much in legal fees will she have to pay?

If you've been in this situation should I just shut up and listen to her? It breaks my heart to see her so low.
What about ab's she says she's got all the symptoms of depression aswell even suicidal thoughts.It is really not like her at all to be like this.
|Sorry this is so long ,thanks for reading it.

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tribpot · 06/03/2007 19:56

Is she working? If not, I think she will qualify for Legal Aid. She may not be able to face the upcoming battles but he sounds like a prize arse and if she doesn't, she and her children are going to end up paying the penalties.

Most solicitors should do a free 30 min consult, definitely worth her calling and finding out what the position is. If not, the Citizens' Advice Bureau?

chipkid · 06/03/2007 20:01

tell her to see a solicitor.

If she has been a SAHM then she should be entitled to some form of support for herself until she is able to get back on her feet.

If he is reneging on the mediation deal now-she really needs the benefit of legal advice and a Court order to protect her in the future

brimfull · 06/03/2007 20:32

Thank you.
She has been a sahm ,but also managing their small holding of sheep.SHe has now gone back to nursing but has been unable to get a full time post,she is working part time
Because of the house situation they are still currently living together which is becoming unbearable.

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brimfull · 06/03/2007 22:24

anyone else?

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brimfull · 07/03/2007 10:43

bump for daytime
last time I promise

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