Hi, I'm just look for a little advice from fellow mummas please, basically.... Myself and partner (ex and child's father) where together for 7 years, split a couple of weeks ago he still lives here at present. He must have worked about 12months of all that time around 4 5 years ago. Not down to health issues or anything else it's generally down to he does not want to work he believes we're slaves to the government and he won't give into them etc, (why I thought having a child with him was a good idea I don't know but I was in love and do not regret my son for a second!) I have always worked, my little boy is almost 2, all through the pregnancy I suffered terrible morning sickness but had to work 10 waking 10 hours nights in a row etc to save money to move and to buy everything for the little one and he still wouldn't get a job or help, I took 12 months maternity leave though my employer and returned to work when the 12 months where up, as much as I would have really loved to be a stay at home mum financially with him not working I didn't have a choice, and had suggested multiple times about him getting a part time job so we could both do half and half working and being home with the little one, he would look for a job for about a day then forget that idea, but luckily in the world we live in now we get child tax credits working tax credits and child benefit as support so I only need to work 3 nights a week. With the benefits and my wages I manage to keep the roof over all of our heads, food in all our bellies, electric water heating etc plus his dogs food and vets bills and any other essentials he needs socks shower gels whatever. He stays at home and looks after our child when I'm working, Lately I have been having to do some day shifts as with what my job role entails circumstances at the moment all of us are all over the place, when I am working a day he refuses to take him to the local playgroup etc won't do any arts and crafts or anything with him as he doesn't want to clean up the mess and the house is always a tip, if I check my phone at work he's constantly online on Facebook and things. When I am home he disappears out with his friends even disappeared for 4 days to his mates once without any consideration for me or his son. Anyway all of this eventually took its toll on me, all the stress of the finances, and him just basically being an ass 
told him I couldn't do it anymore and feel we'd be better as friends as starting to resent him for putting it all on me all the time, obviously we're both upset and have both said things in the heat of the moment etc but it's been a couple of weeks now and he's been into the job centre etc trying to get the child benefits and tax credits switched to his account as he believes he is his main career because he looks after him whilst I work, I have explained to him this money is to keep a roof over our sons head and to ensure all his needs are met which they are but he believes the money is for him for looking after our son (his living money) as far as I'm aware you don't get paid to look after your child as a baby sitter you look after them because your their parent. He said tonight "if the money's not switched to my account then you can find and pay for a child minder whilst your at work then". The thing is I wouldn't trust the money going to him whenever he does get money he blows it, I gave him money for Christmas presents for people all he got our son (18months old at Christmas) was a skateboard no helmet or anything either 
. He's also said according to the benefit people who he spoke to he's the main carer because if our little one need to go to hospital because I was at work he would be the one taking him (if he needed to go hospital I'd kiss works ass goodbye and be going to the hospital) anyway the only time my little one has needed the hospital, I returned home from work one morning and his lips where turning blue, it wasn't cold he wasn't cold he actually had a tempreture, it was a weekend so straight away I called 111, not 999 as he was playing as normal and eating and drinking, they advised I take him straight in so that's what I did, he wouldn't come and told me not to take him he's fine stop being ridiculous. My child's lips where going blue and a doctor has advised me to get him to the hospital asap of course I was going to take him! Sorry I know I'm rambling just trying to give a bigger picture on the situation, and would love outsiders looking in opinions as to wether I should give in and let him have it all put it into his account and if he is classed as my sons main carer? Or should I stand my ground and keep my sons best interests at heart by making sure this roof stays over his head?