My mum died last week.
My sister is executor, along with her husband.
My mum said that all estate, after funeral expences to be shared equally amongst three, anything left over to be disposed of by executor, i beleive.
My brother suggested selling everything that no-one wants and the proceeds be split amongst us for our children's trust fund. My sister initially agreed, and said she would donate hers to charity, then changed her mind.
She is now saying that mum wanted it all to go to a specific homeless org, and that NOTHING would be sold, end of story. She ranted on and on about how others should benefit from this, and it is what mum would have wanted, and as executor she is to do what mum wanted, even though it is not in the will.
When I pointed this out to her, she said, 'your right, it is not, but neither is it in the will that she wants to be scattered at Glastonbuyr, so technically, I can scatter in the garden if I want to, even though we all admit mum told us this is what she wanted, and all want this to happen.
Can she do this? Can she decide what happens to my mums possessions? She has given us until next thursday to take what we want (being really arsey about it) and said whatever has not been taken will be sent to this particular org, and if they wont take it all, she knows some cancer charities that will (mum never said she wanted those charities to benefit).
She claims she has a right, as the other executor witnessed this statement by my mum, even though we think she probably said something more along the lines of 'I dont want it to go on a tip, if there is anything left, you can give it to....org' rather than an express wish, she was at the time in terrible pain with cancer.
Please advise. I am unlikely to do much with it, but when she spouts it at me, I would like to be able defend myself and my brothers views without being seen a making her job harder, or being money grabbing vultures. The estate is worth very little (furniture wise).
Thank you¬!