Calling all solicitors...help needed urgently...

[InaBigPileofPoo]

DH and I are in a pickle. I hit him (not badly) in a row, and I was arrested. Social services are now involved, even tho kids didn't see anything(but they must have heard). DH made a statement when police arrived, I was interviewed then released on bail for 2 weeks. Conditions were that I had no contact with my husband whatsoever during that time and was not allowed to the family home. DH retracted his support for prosecution, but CPS still went ahead. As I did not admit to anything in my statement, I was advised to plead not guilty, and DH supported me by attending court in case he needed to say something to that effect. The bail conditions remained the same, for a total of 2 months until the next court date. It was my first time appearing in court, but police have been called a few times, by both of us on different occasions. Even though DH has dropped charges, his statement was read out during the social services meeting by domestic violence policewoman. Mine wasn't. With an ongoing case, is that legal? DH even said in meeting that a lot was factually incorrect. I wasn't allowed to say anything about my interpretation of events. I don't understand how this is allowed. Anyone got any advice? Also on the ridiculous bail conditions, can they be altered so at least DH and I can go to Relate?!!!

Sorry no legal advice and good luck with Relate... if you can't go together to begin with you can always go seperately which may be a good idea anyway to allow you both to speak freely before starting joint counselling.
I hope for your childrens sake you get completely sorted or seperate, your children are very likely to become aggressive themselves with violent role models.
Good luck

We are generally not violent, and the children haven't witnessed anything. We are loving, caring parents who just want to get our relationship back on track but it seems as though we are being forced not to.

It is unbelievably frightening and damaging for your children to experience living with parents who are this scary and volatile. You are right in that you MUST change or divorce. If you can't live together without hitting each other and calling the police on each other constantly, I would strongly recommend you separate for the good of your children. Did you never think that this would happen when you were both calling the police on each other? What does your solicitor suggest re counselling and your bail conditions and seeing your children? What have your children been told?

In answer to questions, I do see my children, just not in the family home. The children know that mum and dad cannot be together right now but we are keeping them to a routine as much as we can as their needs are paramount to us. As said in my original post, we want to get things back on track, but it seems as though everyone's forcing us not to be able to even try.

Batters- if you can't say anything useful, please don't say anything at all. When have I ever condoned our behaviour? We are up to our ears, by our own making, and trying our best to sort it out. Useful advice regarding the law would be appreciated.

InaBig have you looked at the womens aid website it might give you some insight into how things are dealt with? Also have you thought about seperate counselling as Relate will do that as well?

We are both getting separate counselling, we are just not allowed at present to have joint counselling per bail conditions. Will have a look at website, thanks for some proper advice from someone at last!