Yes, I've confirmed it too - Mumblechum + SJB are right - I am entitled to HB!
I rang around and ended up speaking to a very experienced welfare benefits woman in a Benefits Office who had come across this situ many times. She said that I was perfectly entitled to it because of my circumstances. I can support my application with all the paperwork/action Ive taken regarding the d violence/stress (GP, DV agencies, Police, Support Agency, solicitor, psychotherapy, etc.)
Once the HB is granted the council will do reviews on me at regular intervals, the 1st after 6 months to check I am progressing sale my house and doing legal necessities/consent order to split and come off HB. She made it sound like reviews would carry on even after 6mths, but I dont intend to be on it for very long.
Mumblechum, a solicitor is already on board, Ive just instructed a new solicitor because previous one was pushy. Me and Ex have recently applied for mediation so whatever comes out of it will be drawn up in consent order.
I'm very reluctant to take out injunction to get him to move out - I'd be the loser in the end because he'd be very vengeful because of shame/honour reasons and how it would look in front of his family etc (there are asian/culture issues here) and he'd probably contest the divorce throughout and our lawyers fees would both go through the roof in the bloodbath and eat into the equity too (which isn't huge). Once divorce is final and I'm independent and newly mortgaged again and he can't hurt me, then I will be in a very liberating position to tell my side of the story (DV) to his family/community - only if I choose to - it could be very dangerous - I can't stress how much he cares about his reputation. If I say anything to his family now it will start WW3. I have been v isolated in the marriage, but late have been doing plenty to remedy it + feeling good!
Thanks for all this support/advice.