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CSA claim to non resident parents partners income?

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babyiwantabump · 14/03/2015 11:24

Wasn't sure wether to put this here or in step parenting part.

I need some advice . Basically DP pays for his daughter through CSA ( and additional stuff - buys clothes , school stuff etc )
Which is fine no problems with that . It is only through CSA as his ex likes to use things as threats - he was willing and did pay direct to her but she wanted a bit of control.

Anyway I digress DP proposed to me so we are now to be married . We informed DSD who told her mum and then she came back with this little gem ...

"Great now I can take the bitch for all she's worth - have been waiting to get to her money too"(talking about me)

Now my question is can she do this?

Would she now (well once we are married)be entitled to anything of mine?

I'm just worried as I own the house (mine before DP moved in) and also have many other significant assetts .

She is the kind of person who would do this even though we go above and beyond to support DSD.

I don't know how it works as I have an amicable agreement with my ex for my DD.

Oh it's such a tangle!

Thank you if you got this far!

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CountingThePennies · 14/03/2015 11:27

Oh my dh has a ex partner like this.

I can assure you that as a step parent you are not responsible for the step child.

She will get absolutely zilch from you!

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babyiwantabump · 14/03/2015 12:06

Oh brilliant . The way she was talking it was like she had researched it and she was going to be entitled to half of my house basically !

I didn't want to end up loosing my home .

Thank you

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oneowlgirl · 14/03/2015 12:14

Is that definitely right Counting? I've heard the opposite actually but no first hand experience so cant say for definite.

Given how you describe things, I'd stay engaged for quite a while as once you're married, will he not be entitled to half of the house etc anyway??

oneowlgirl · 14/03/2015 12:16

I should clarify, I have no actual knowledge of this, so this is just my feeling, not based on any facts so feel free to ignore! Good luck!

Earlybird · 14/03/2015 12:25

I am not sure the advice from countingthepennies is correct.

I was advised that if I lived with/married my dp soon after his divorce, it would be possible for his ex wife to apply to have her financial settlement and/or regular payments increased. This was based on the fact that his financial situation would improve significantly by living with/marrying me - in essence, he would then be capable of paying his ex more. We were advised to wait at least 3 years after his divorce became final before living together or marrying in order to decrease her chances of successfully applying to change the terms of their financial agreement.

But that was years ago, and legal/divorce precedents could have changed.

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babyiwantabump · 14/03/2015 13:49

Oh I know that he will be entitled to half - that doesn't bother me . We have been together for 8 years and living together for 5 nearly so that's no issue .

The worry is her.

Fwiw they were never married they were together for a couple of years and split up when DSD was a few months old.

So she only gets money for DSD not herself if that makes sense.

I just don't see why my money should go to her when I have my own children to support and look after and if she were entitled then I would be postponing actually getting married for that reason alone really.

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HowardTJMoon · 14/03/2015 14:06

If your DP pays through the CSA (ie, it's not a court settlement) and he's paying based on 15% of his net salary (rather than "old rules" original CSA) then, no, your income is not counted at all. How much child maintenance he pays will be based on his sole net income.

TickleMyTitsTillFriday · 14/03/2015 14:07

Best for your DH to call the CSA and find out. Because I think it can depend on when the claim for CSA was made and therefore what scheme you are under.
She wouldn't be entitled to anything to do with your house unless your dp stopped paying and a liability order was granted.

As that's not going to happen I wouldn't worry!

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babyiwantabump · 14/03/2015 14:08

It's the old rules CSA I think as it was set up over 8 years ago . Does that make a difference?

It's not through court just his ex contacted them .

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BaronessEllaSaturday · 14/03/2015 14:35

Do you know when the case was originally opened as the system changed in 2003 so 12 years ago, if prior to that then yes household income can be taken into account after that then no it is only his.

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babyiwantabump · 14/03/2015 14:58

Oh it was after that as she wasn't born till after then. Thank you

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MuttonCadet · 14/03/2015 15:02

Your income and assets are definitely not taken into account (DH ex tried to do the same when we got married - it cost her a bit in legal fees to find out she was entitled to absolutely nothing).

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