Hi
Some of you will remember (under my previous name of HellyBelly) that my dh lost his job on xmas eve last year. Well, we're fighting that case atm but I have another problem I need your help with.
Dh was out of work for 3 months before finally getting some temp work. I was earning a very small amount each month and we were sinking fast into debt. We got desperate and ended up claiming housing and council tax benefit. Dh filled in the big form and the relevant benefit went direct to the council tax and housing (rent) departments to go towards the arrears.
During this hard time, my dh lived in our bedroom (yes, for 3 months during every day) because I'm a childminder and he wanted to stay out of the way - was very very low. Our marriage suffered big time and we went to relate and luckily we're still together but it was a really awful stressful time. So, with everything that was going on, dh and I forgot to inform the benefit office when he started working. It was a temp job for about a week to start with and we just didn't think - were just happy he had a weeks work. Anyway, this led to a permanent job and we suddenly realised we hadn't informed the benefits office. Dh rang straight away as was really worried and they said just to write and let them know. He did this, informing them he was now working and asked them to advice him what to do next. Next thing they wanted a meeting re possible benefit fraud - all taped etc and scary for dh who felt like a criminal. This took place in June and for the last 3½ months we've been worrying about what will happen.
Today received a letter saying they have sufficient grounds to recommend instituting criminal proceedings against him but on this occasion are prepared to consider issuing a formal caution.
My dad has adviced us not to accept it. We feel dh has been bullied, it's totally ridulous. HE was the one who informed THEM that he was working, the date he started and asked to know what to do next (i.e. paying them back) and now they are treating him like a criminal.
They want him to attend another meeting in a couple of weeks - more time off work (very important he doesn't annoy work after how long it took to get the job!).
Anyone had this happen before? Got any advice? Me and my dad seriously think he should tell them to take him to court then and see what they say. It's all crazy as far as I'm concerned.
Any advice would be MUCH appreciated.
Thanks