how much cash for a wedding gift?

[milkpudding]

We have been asked to give cash as a wedding gift (yes, in a poem). I have no idea how much is typical, could anyone advise?

I am one of the bridesmaids, DH has never met the couple, if that is relevant.

How much are you spending on attending their wedding in terms of travel, hotels, new clothes and so on? Give them an equivalent to what you'd spend on a gift normally, offset proportionally by the costs of attending.

£20 is my usual, but if you've had a lot of expense as a bridesmaid then reduce it.

£40/£50 usually.
But only if I can afford it. I've been known to give a tenner and a lottery ticket when out of work

How much you would spend on a gift that was on the list. For us this is between 50 - 100, depending on who it is.

I would give between £50 to £100, depending on how generous you/tight your finances are.

Not a lot.

I think 50 is fine. That's what I gave as a bridesmaid recently

It's impossible to go off what others would give as everyone moves in different circles and has different budgets.

We give in cash the same amount as we'd spend on a present. I'd suggest you do the same.

I must admit, due to lack of funds recently I kind of ignored the 'money only' request and just bought a token gift anyway. I think the gift cost between £15 and £20 but I didn't feel this was enough to put in a card. (But maybe it was judging by the above responses)

I was only a normal guest (as in not on the top table) but her wedding had already cost me an absolute fortune with a hen weekend away, and then an 'intimate' hen day with close friends and then travel to the wedding venue and night at the (v expensive) hotel. Add on drinks for me and my DP I must have spent over £400.

When we (eventually) get married i won't be having a hen do and my invites will say something along the lines of 'no gifts or money, please just bring yourselves and have a good time'. I can't bear the thought of people feeling obliged to give something. I refused to have a baby shower for the same reason!!

(Maybe I'm being a miserable git?! I'd just find it embarrassing!!)

About £20 is plenty

About £20-30, same amount as I would spend on a present.