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help advice needed urgently, don't know what to say to sort this out!!!

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Polgara2 · 28/09/2006 12:54

Oh hell, my house buying saga going tits up for sure this time!! Supposed to be exchanging today, for completion on 6th October. My buyers originally threatened to withdraw if we didn't complete tomorrow. My solicitors spoke to theirs and got ok for completion on 6th. Are all ready to exchange this morning - get phone call from my solicitor - our buyers have said has to be tomorrow!!! TO make it worse people at top of chain suddenly saying 10th. Oh god what do I do now? Think the 10th one easiest to sort, our vendor will move out on 6th anyway have just spoken to him. What the hell do I say to my buyer - how do I convince a clearly unreasonable person to wait until the 6th. How do I speak to her without crying? All advice gratefully received.

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AngelaChill · 28/09/2006 13:06

Cry, you've nothing to loose and they'll feel like shit for putting so much pressure on you.

fairyjay · 28/09/2006 13:13

I'm sure they're trying it on - if they pulled out and found somewhere else it would take a lot longer to go through legals.

Why are you making the calls? Your agent should be doing this for you.

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Polgara2 · 28/09/2006 13:26

Yes well was thinking of crying actually!!! The agents are making the calls, but it is really just to try anything to sort it all out. Desperately dont want to have to make the call (because I'm a coward!) but will if it will help matters iyswim. My agent is going to ring her now so will wait before I pitch in. But just don't want to make it worse. I am shaking like a leaf here .

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fairyjay · 28/09/2006 13:31

It's a really vile, stressful time, isn't it. But just think, soon you'll be in your new home, and these nightmares will quickly fade away!

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Polgara2 · 28/09/2006 13:36

Do you really think so? Tbh this nightmare has been going on for so long am beginning to think its not going to happen .

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Polgara2 · 28/09/2006 14:01

Bugger just an answerphone - dont know how much more my nerves are going to hold out

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Polgara2 · 28/09/2006 14:25

I know I'm talking to myself but it helps!! Shall I try to ring her again, what if she's just totally unreasonable oh hell

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Mumpbump · 28/09/2006 14:49

I'd go back in writing (if you're doing it yourself) and make the point that the completion date has been varied by agreement to be 6th October and it's not reasonable to expect you to change your plans at this late stage. I would be surprised if they pull out at this late stage, although there are no guarantees, of course, as you haven't exchanged!! Nevertheless, you've definitely got the moral highground on this one, I'd say. Have you exchanged on your purchase yet?

wannaBe1974 · 28/09/2006 16:44

ok so let me get this straight, you were supposed to exchange today with completion on the 6th of October but your buyers have now said completion has to be tomorrow? If they're threatening to pull out over that then tbh I would call their bluff. I think people honestly believe that if they threaten like this then they will always get what they want, but reality is that if they pulled out now they would have to go through the process of finding a new property, re-marketing their property if they have one, and there's no chance they'll even be moved by Christmas. they're not going to pull out wit that in mind imo.

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Polgara2 · 28/09/2006 21:20

Well I feel like a wet rag now! Have just had the most stressful conversation of my life (well almost!). Spent almost an hour listening to her talk about them and how hard its been for them really and how they're not even sure they want the house now . Had to bite my tongue and be all nice and grovelly (yuk) despite really wanting to tell where to go! Oh and she denies they ever accepted the 6th . I still do not know what is going to happen as her husband is not in yet to discuss it!! If this falls through I will need therapy, my children will be devastated and I think I will go away and cry now!

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fairyjay · 29/09/2006 13:53

So how's it going?

Doesn't quite add up that they aren't sure about the house now - why are they pushing you so much if that's the case.

And of course, this whole process is so easy for you and everyone else, isn't it [sceptical]

sorrell · 29/09/2006 14:03

Put the phone down and walk away! This is your estate agent or solicitor's job, not yours. You are just letting this horrible woman vent her spleen on you, and you really don't have to. Of course she wants your house, she's just beeing vile. Don't talk to her any more!

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Polgara2 · 29/09/2006 19:13

OMG OMG - we've exchanged!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe that absolutely torturous phone call last night did some good after all!
If I never speak to her again it will be too soon. Could I leave the house booby trapped in some way do you think .

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Olihan · 29/09/2006 19:16

Stick a kipper down the back of eaach radiator!!!

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Polgara2 · 29/09/2006 19:21

Oh I like that!!!

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jalopy · 29/09/2006 20:14

Plant russian ivy in the garden

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Polgara2 · 30/09/2006 08:22

Jalopy - what's russian ivy ??

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lizziemun · 01/10/2006 08:31

because russian ivy grows very fast about a metre a month and gets overgrown overnight.

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