How much would you give? Wedding present for well off but distant relatives

[NanFlanders]

Hi all . Have been unexpectedly invited to wedding celebration of my second cousin. Seems like a swish do -cocktails, trip round London, country house reception. (They are a bit posher than us!) and we are looking forward to it. The couple have said they don't expect presents, but if people really want to give, then we could make a contribution to fund a round the world trip. Dh and I both work full time in mid level professional jobs and have two kids. What do mn etters reckon is an appropriate amount? Thanks

How much would you spend on a gift for them? Just give that amount.

It's really difficult for others to say what is an appropriate amount for you to spend. I would say spend what you usually would for a wedding gift. We got married last year, didn't ask for money but got cash presents ranging from £10-£200. If they are going to judge you for how much you spend they are probably not worth knowing.

What's mid level prof job? I worry on mumsnet that's 80k. But assuming roughly your combined income is 60-75k, I reckon 100 quid, maybe 150.

In the complete absence of any details £40-£50. .

Standard wedding present amount for non close friends here

Give what you would normally give

Tbh if they are asking for money they ain't that well off.

Thanks all. 2468 - Lol - no not 80K - I guess low to mid-level then ;-)

I must be tight! I was going to say £50-60.

I'd give £80, I think.

£50-100

40 at the most.

£50. Fwiw, that's what we'd give and I work very part time and dh earns £58000. We would still find £50 hard to just fritter at the moment with three children and would also find it a very generous gift if we were given it.

Another vote for £50. They are well off - if they are able to go off on a round the world trip they must be well minted!

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I think 50 is perfectly reasonable!

If you have all the stuff for the house last thing you need is more stuff. I would ask for cash.

Me and DH usually give a standard £100 for weddings now, but I would drop that down to whatever was required if we couldn't afford it.