left violent partner need some advice

[sadanonely]

hi well finally got the courage to get rid of my abusive partner he was emotionally physically and financialy abusing me for a while but im finally free of him .ive recently got my job back but im just wondering is there any loans thats accept bad credit like the pay day loans until i get my first wage me and son are a bit in a mess food wise etc as x controlled the money and he would never do a full shop it was shop day to day but obviously im running out of everything now.my friend gave me a few tins but its not really lasted and we need toiletries etc i can pay it back when my wage goes in .i have applied for hardship and they told me yesterday that i have been accepted obviously this will stop when i get my wage but ive been told by a freind not to hold my breath about help of the dwp as im starting back to work on monday they will say im in work and entitled to nothing

Do you have any family that can lend you some money to tide you over or buy you a few things?

hi at the moment no i dont speak to my family but i have contacted them for support with all of this
ive just applied for a loan so hope i get it

What about trying your local credit union sad

hi i think with the credit union id have to be saving for 12 weeks unless its changed ill give them a call now didnt think of them
im sure something will turn up just yesterday had me all in a tizz didnt no what to do for the best .going to ring credit union now
even if they cant help me now its probably something i should start once im able to

Can you call Women's Aid? They no doubt have lots of experience helping women get back on their feet in similar circumstances, and might at least be able to advise a course of action?

hi i did email a local womens aid organisation but had no reply as yet
thinking maybe as its friday or theyve been busy
hopefully the hardship will go in tuesday just got to the get weekend over with
thanks everyone for the replies and advice

signed up to some survey sites hoping i can make a little of them until im sorted i was going to sell my phone but atm its the only form of contact with my boss etc
how do i get a food bank voucher didnt realise i had to get a voucher before i could access the food bank
had the police here again earlier as they are wanting me to get an injunction out against my ex feel really down tonight hope its ok to keep posting here

Can you ask your boss for an advance on your wage ?

i sent her a text earlier on shes away for the weekend but is going to try and sort something on monday when shes back
ive got 2 pound on an asda gift card so trying to work out for the best what to use that on

Crisis grants are now dealt with by the council not dwp so call your local council and ask. Also food bank vouchers can be accessed through health visitors, Gp surgeries and councils and some advice agencies like citizens advice or if they can't give you a food bank voucher they'll know where to get one. Which town/area are you in op?

The dwp told me about a short term advance but said because i should be getting hardship i couldnt apply not sure if the council is open tommorow but i can try and ring them .ive just been looking for bits to sell and found a old chain not sure if its gold or gold plated but you never no so going to the pawnbrokers tommorow morning in town to see if its worth anything.
im in the northwest

hi ive tried to ring the council but no answer so assuming they close saturdays
The chain i had was gold plated and they dont buy that in :( should have known as it was a gift of x partner during one of our very few good moments he gave me that
ive emailed the food bank again to see if they can do anything as everywhere i can get a food voucher from is closed ive not eaten just kept what i have for my son but feel faint all the time
tryng to keep normal for my little boy but its hard

Your councils emergency social work should still be open. Could you try them? They'd be supportive of you leaving your ex partner and trying to make a good life for yourself and your son. Or women's aid? Or your local church? churches quite often have links to food banks etc and can refer you.

Sorry things are so tough right now but you are doing the right thing and it will get better

i really dont want to involve social workers ive only got until tuesday or if my boss can sort something monday sure things wil work out just struggling at the moment .i emailed womens aid my local one but didnt get a reoly i have tried ringing today but no answer ,i have got some tins that will enable me to make a meal for son so hes ok its just me ill survive jsut feel down with everything thats happened this week feels like its not real .
have just txt a family member who fell out with me due to x asking for help so hopefully they will now ive finally got rid if not ill have to manage i think with it being weekend its like everywhere shut x

i no it will get better i should be greatfull i escaped and got out when i did becuase i reallu believe one day he would have killed me i feel like i can breathe now and the police are installing panic buttons due to the voilence and theres been a red marker thats been put on my house so they have to get here asap plus im going a head with a restraining order

Where abouts in the northwest are you ? I would do you a food parcel if your not too far away ?

HI im near liverpool
my aunt said she was coming last night with some but she didnt turn up
i have txt her again but had no reply
i dont expect any one to send me things etc i just didnt no where to turn when i posted on here im just realy hoping i get a hardship payment tuesday

Thank god mondays here hopefully i can get something in place for today
my aunt still didnt get back in conctact with me
Going to ring the dwp to see if my payments still going in
Then my boss to seee if she can help me with an advance

had a pretty rubbish day yesterday couldnt face anything
went to the dwp to see if i was getting a payment was told yes checked my bank this morning and nothing there .going to ring them at 9am as i belive thats when they open.My Boss has been waylaid hopefully she will be back today fingers crossed and my so called family memebers didnt turn up after again reassuring me they would .feel like ive hit rock bottom
wanted to avoid a food bank as i dont feel comfortable going there ive no confindence my x seen to that i hate going out feel like i cant breathe being out .got an appointmernt at at my doctors a 4pm today because i no i cant go on feeling like this .ive sent of for some samples of toothpaste etc online not sure how longthey take to come .

hi everyone sorry havent been on here for a few days .Well i have now put a claim in for jsa but that could take 6 weeks and im not entitled to hardship as my childben and child tax will still be paid in to my account.i rang them as it always went in to his bank and asked them to change it to mine so thats done and its due next thursday as its always been paid monthly but i have requested it now to go in weekly
Spoke to my Aunt again to see if she could help she sent me down some soup,bread,butter,milk,beans ,oven chips and teabags and coffee so that will last a bit
Still havent been brave enough to go the food bank i really cant face it atm i feel like i dont want to leave the house .Police are driving past my house every so often as ive been receiving threats of my ex .
Its my sons birthday next week im so fed up with myself feel like i cant give him anything just feel like the worst mum in the world but i no im not i mean when i was with my x we had started buying but he wont have much i no i will get through this though but i really cant face food banks etc but im sure ill manage well im going to have to tried to get loans but just keep getting declined and i dont no any pther money lenders
been looking at freebies online and sending of for samples etc
just thought id update everyone as ive had so much good advice xx

Hi there Sad,

How are you and your little boy getting on? I noticed you've not updated in a while; I do hope you're ok and some part of your situation has improved?

I just wanted to say that the best present you could give your little one is a mummy who feels safe, confident and happy and by leaving your abusive ex you've started that process. You are a fantastic role model to him, just remember that. He will sense your happiness and be happy as a result. Kids are not materialistic and I can promise you he won't give a stuff about toys and won't remember his birthday for the things you did/didn't buy him but for the love you showered him in.

I really hope your family stepped up and helped you out and/or your boss came through for you? Let us know how we can help. Maybe there is someone closer to you who could sort you a food parcel or maybe old clothes, etc, if that's something you're struggling with? How old is your little one? I wish I was closer (Yorkshire).

Please come back and let us know how you're getting on. Stay strong and always remember, no matter how hard it gets: you did the right thing xx

hi sorry ive not posted in a while and now i forgot my password and login so ive had to resign up .
well things are no better really my job well couldnt go back the doctor signed me of with depression so had to claim for benefits which they managed to cock up on me finally got it sorted so im now waiting for my claim to be processed etc they told me it can be anything between 2 and 6 weeks to get my first payment
so atm were living of cbenenfit which is £2o per week just really strugling tax credits is getting sorted out but dont no how long it will take hoping not long
none of my family can help or want to help my son had a nice birthday i managed to trade my dvds to get him a game for his ds and he enjoed himself
hes 7 but in age 9-10 clothes that is one thing im struggling with he seems to be growing so quick cant wait until my moneys sorted
its just hard with it being easter next week i feel awfull i cant really afford to get him anything
but i need to concentrate on just getting through it thanks for asking xx

hi hope im ok to post having abad day today wondering if anyone nos where i can get anyhellp with for easter been told i should get a payment of tax credits in the next week but i doubt it theyve been stringing me along for weeks.my jsa is going to take 4-6 weeks to get a payment been to the food bank to much this month can only go 3 times in a month so cant go again just yet any help guidance would be great xx

Whereabouts near Liverpool are you and what exactly do you need help with? Are you not getting any tax credits at the moment? I live in Liverpool maybe I can help in some way .