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Dd threatened with arrest after she was assaulted

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ThePrisoner · 16/07/2006 16:05

Several months ago, dd's friend was punched in the face by unknown girl, in club toilet, there was no CCTV footage. My dd (19yrs old) and her 2 friends spoke to police outside club, but police not interested. Dd and friends left, went to get taxi home, and girl appeared in taxi office and attacked my dd by knocking her head against wall twice. It may have been caught on CCTV.

When they got to my house, dd and her 2 friends were hysterical. I phoned police, an officer came some while later - he said he'd seen CCTV footage, but we don't know of what. He took statements, and later said that the girl was known to them, and that they would be making an arrest.

Police called dd last night to say that girl claimed dd and friends had assaulted her first. Dd (and her friend) have been given two choices - to drop all charges, or to be arrested themselves for assault, and face a court case!!

DD is going to police later on and is going to drop charges, she doesn't want to "be in trouble", despite the fact that she has done nothing wrong. She said the officer who rang her was apologetic, but that that was the way the system worked.

Just how unfair is that.

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kama · 16/07/2006 16:12

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edam · 16/07/2006 16:19

Oh, for heaven's sake, that's ridiculous. But it does happen - my uncle caught some little thugs trying to nick his van. When he called the cops, little thugs made allegations against him and police pursued him, not them. Grrr.

ThePrisoner · 16/07/2006 16:24

Police won't (or not allowed?) say what CCTV stuff they have, and officer said yesterday that it would be dd's and her friend's word against the girl's. The girl said that dd and her friends "went" for her earlier, which is obviously not on any CCTV!

I know that she wouldn't hurt a fly, but she's too worried about the "threat" of going to court. If this girl is known to the police, she's probably done this all before, but I can't make dd do something she doesn't want to do. It just makes me angry on her behalf.

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thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 18/07/2006 11:09

can't you speak to a lawyer before deciding to drop charges?

LeahE · 18/07/2006 11:20

I agree with twwtswah -- if you can persuade your DD to talk to a solicitor before making a decision then she'll at least be making whatever decision she makes from a position of knowledge and with informed advice about what would be likely to happen under either set of circumstances (dropping or not dropping the charges).

ThePrisoner · 18/07/2006 20:31

Rightly or wrongly, she has now been into police station and has signed stuff to agree that she will drop the charges. We did discuss seeing a solicitor, but she says that the thought of going to court and having to convince someone that she's not lying really frightens her.

Someone in RL who I spoke to (who is vaguely knowledgeable about such things) said that it could end up with all of them getting a caution! She doesn't want anything like that on record.

I know that she is telling the truth 100%, but I do understand her concerns. She thinks that it would cause me problems with my job as a childminder if she had some kind of "violent crime" on her records!

Am still at the system.

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