Social Services Query

[confusedandaffraid]

Can you make an anonomous tip off to social serices? Do they have to tell you who made the call? I only asked cause I had a social worker round today because someone had made a report against me regarding the untidiness/cleanliness of my house and I now have 3 days to tidy up or they will consider getting environmental heath involved over a sink of dirty dishes and a mountain of washing.

Thanks tribot will ask them when they come out on Monday for a chat.

Comming out of hiding now as I feel more happy and confident about the whole situation.

House is very nearly sorted. HV is being supportive, DH is being much more supportive and taking more interest in the house as well. Both sets of parents are helping out a bit more as well to get us through all this.

Haven't had any more contact from the girl involved or her family thank goodness cause I could still rip strips off them. I am becomming more resigned to the it all and getting into a new routine that seems to be working well for us all.

Thank you everyone for your support and the kind words. It has been an emeotional rollercoaster but hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel and SS can see that we have made a huge effort and will be able to sign it all of as a momentary blip. I am aware that this leaves me open for them turning up for spot checks but am fairly unconcerened by this as there is no way I want to live in an untidy house again.

Yipee finaly all signed off and I have a homestart volunteer.

Still feeling depressed but not as bad as before iyswim.

only just read this thread, sorry to hear what a hard time you have had. we were on the same antenatal thread btw. really pleased to hear things are getting better, you did all the right things and the best you could for your children. well done for working so hard. good that your dh is helping more its sad that things had to get so far before he got off his arse though at least you're families have been supportive and its all back on track good luck for the future MH x

Thanks lovemygirls. Pop in and see us all on the postnatal thread when you get a minute.

i have sat furious while reading what u have been through confusedandaffraid. Shame SS dont spend their time more wisely targeting the mums (and dads) that abuse their children rather than you who like most of us, have a messy house. Makes my blood boil .
And a flippin big WELL DUN to ya girl for coming through it. you should be really proud of yourself hun. Bless ya.

I feel so bad for you that this has happened, hope you are ok
I atually contacted social services myself and asked for help, I am still waiting 5 months on for some help

trinityrhino, i do hope you get the help you need hun. i havent needed SS since becoming a parent but my heart goes out to anyonne who does need their help. The hardest job in the world is being a parent, it comes with no manuals and its a 24 hr job. We all need help sometimes and i hope u get all u need.

Trinityrhino have you tried homestart/gp/hv they can all help depending on the circumstances obviousley. If you are realy desperate call them again or get someone else from outside the family to phone for you but to be honest SS realy are the last resort hunny. I went to hell and back this year whilst all of this was going on especially when they started asking if dh hit me because she noticed a mark on my face. I have a strawberry mark on my left cheek and she assumed it was an injury.

If you need to talk cat me or post here for help and support.

Sorry, just going back to the begginning, anyone can make a tip off and no, they wont tell you who made it. It is within anyones rights to make a tip off to SS, it could be someone you know who just cant tell you to your face how they feel, or a neibour or someone trying to make trouble.
At the end of the day, as long as your looking after your children well, they are clothed and fed and watered and not neglected in any way, you have nothing to worry about, after SS are not going to take your children away becuase of some dirty dishes and a bit of washing! chin up

"Shame SS dont spend their time more wisely targeting the mums (and dads) that abuse their children rather than you who like most of us, have a messy house. Makes my blood boil"

But they have to investigate every tip off, thats how they find children that ARE abused!?!
Although all the stuff with messy house etc sounds petty, they are probably just trying to help you cope better and prevent A)anougher tip off and B)Your need for any further intervention from SS

Sorry, it just annoys me when people start bad-mouthing SS when they dont know that much about it and dont understand fully how they work and why they do what they do(rant over!)

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