Sols need £20,000 initial payment to defend dh - money we do not hav

[puddytats]

Got letter from the solicitors the other day with some info that the police used to charge dh (can already see discrepancies in what originally told and what is now in statements). They are happy to represent dh but need £20,000 upfront to start with and costs could rise to £60,000+.
WE DON'T HAVE IT
Mil is currently helping to pay all our bill and general living expenses.
My parents are paying for shopping, nursery, days/evenings out etc.
Fil in well off, not sure if he is willing to help out with legal fees. If he does not dh will have to plead guilty as we can not afford the legal fees. He will give us the answer at the weekend.
The fate of my family lies with my fil, if he pays dh can plead not guilty, if he doesn't when we return to court on 13th July he will have to plead guilty which means he will be in prision by the end of august.
I am so very scared.
Thankyou for listening again

Thinking of you too, what an awful situation xx

Thinking of you today puddytats, fingers crossed that all is going as well as possible under the circumstances

oh..god..it's today isn't it??

hope it's good news PT...

Bump hope everything is as good as it can be puddytats, love to you & your family xx

Didn't read the original thread, but am I jumping the gun by thinking this could be related to the NatWest three?

Regardless or not, I hope all is well with you Puddytats.

Hope it went as well as you could hope for puddytats regardless of what it was about xxxxxx

Been thinking of you all day, hope everything went as well as could be hoped.

No, glassofwine, I don't think it was that.

Oh, and I hope this went well today, please do let us know ...

For Puddytat's sake I hope not, but I guess those men do have families - it can't be a good time for them.

oh gosh puddytats I remember all this from when you first posted about it. I am so, so sorry it has got this bad.

Is it just me or does anyone else think that maybe we can help puddytats out in some way?

i'd like to help if I can.

sorry to be sticking my neck out - a lot of this doesn't seem to add up - it might be worth clarifying things a bit more before offering to hand over money IYSWIM

scuttles off

No offence but this is the internet how can we do a whip round when we possibly cannot know if he is guilty or not.

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I am with FF and Gski, happy to offer my sympathy, but that is where it stops.

I agree with the last few posters.

I have found the whole thing a little strange, I don't think the legal aid information is correct, but hope yesterday went ok for you pt. MN has done "whip rounds"in the past, but I don't think us joining forces to raise say £500 is of any value here. Hope to hear some good news from you puddytats.

OK, ladies. Come and argue with me about weaning.

Leave it till Puddytats replies and then the witch hunt can resume, if necessary.

Hunker

I do not consider saying more than happy to offer symapathy but that is where it stops constitutes a witch hunt.

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Sorry.

I could just see how it was going.

And MN has been "peculiar" of late.

And I wanted people to argue with me about weaning and you all seemed up for a ruck

But now you're arguing with me here instead

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I have a huge amount of sympathy for anyone who is losing their partner for what ever reason. And that's it really.

Hunker, I certainly was not embarking on a witch hunt, just using my professional background in offering my opinion, and wishing puddytats good luck

Any family being split up is awful and I would not wish puddytats experience on my worst enemy.