Hope this is the right place to post this question.
I have a 21 year old daughter who is pregnant, due in July when she will be 22. Quickly want to say, we are all pleased with the news - there's been a lot of sadness in our little family over the last few years so hard to see a new baby as anything other than happy news :) even though some people we know (scowling as I type) have been uptight over the fact 'she's far too young...'
She is in a relationship, has been for 4 years but she does not live with her boyfriend. She lives with me at home as last year she went back to full time college after realising the world of call center jobs was hanus and she wanted a better life for herself...
I work part time, claim working and child tax credits. I have a son with high end autism so am registered as his carer - the reason I can not go out and get a full time job - sick and tired of having to explain this to people that call me a benefit scrounger! I am working all the hours that I can work while caring for my son, any more hours worked cancels out my carers allowance and also leaves him home alone on days he is not at education which I can not do. He is in full time college - 3 days a week.
I have a 15 year old also... Full time school.
Anyhow, I have tried, unsuccessfully to get some advice on what aside from child benefit my daughter will be able to claim when her baby is born and she remains living at home with me while she completes her final year in college. Her bf is happy and willing to contribute to baby, he is not a waster, he's a decent lad, he works part time after finding it hard to find a full time job but in all honesty, they are going to struggle financially - dd does already - I financially support her currently and I do not claim any help in the manner of tax credits for doing so given her age and so forth. All I have been told is; if she were not to go to college, she would be entitled to state help which to my mind sounds ridiculous as surely we ought to be assisting in education rather than punishing for going? But that is only my personal opinion on the skewiff ideals of this country! Its kind of why I am posting on here because I can't understand the logic of this - surely it can not be right that when she has the baby she gets no help at all because she is in college? Yet if she chose to not complete her courses, she'd get money? I am trying to work out if I have to support her when baby is born plus support the baby in reality given her bf's small earnings? I feel crushed financially as it is and this is keeping me awake at night as I try to work out where i can magic the cash up from!
Anybody who has been through a similar situation - your input would be much appreciated. Do not want to go into it greatly with dd as she is terribly sick at the moment, the pregnancy has thus far been horrible for her.
Many thanks.