Does anyone know where i stand (csa)

[pepperpots]

My xp left in december 2005, we have 2 children together 2 and three months (when he left) he saw them when he felt like it and paid when he felt like it ( a misely 100 pound a month) and not every month. When i moved in with my dp i had a letter from csa asking me if i would like to proceed wih my claim. Isaid yes and to be fair they were pretty quick in sorting it out. Xp came to see the boys last sunday for the first time in a month, and said nothing at all regarding csa (i'm presuming tha he had a letter off them too). The thing is he can be very sly and underhand. I then received another letter from them early last week stating that the first payment i would receive would be 19/04, bu t surprise surprise i didn't I just wante to know how long will he get away with not paying? And does anyone have any expreience whether it be good or bad? Appreciate any help at all

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No experience for you pepperpots, I am sure others have though. I should imagine it will be a case of reporting every missed payment to them and pushing them with "waht you doing about it" calls.

Sorry that's not too helpful, hope someone clever turns up soon!

Thanks

So how many times has he seen them since he left?

Also did the CSA tell you how you would be paid? (ie bring you cash into bank etc?)

He left in December 2004 not decmber 2005 he has probably seen them about fifteen times in that time (was supposed to be once a week) Csa apparently said that he has to pay into a bank but when i spoke to them again toay they said still nothing has been received

I guessed you meant 04!

Hmm well if it shouldgo into the bank then I guess you can't ask him for it (if you even wanted to go down that route)

Did they give you any idea of their next move with hm?

All they said was they would wait until monday and if nothing then he would be put on someones 'list' i'm guessing that would be some sort of chasing list but god knows how long it would take from there

I am sorry to hear about this - life is hard enough without extra cr*p.

Hope they don't take too long about it - I guess you can keep the pressure on them to try to keep them at it?

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, as it's the CSA you could be waiting forever. You only have to read the numerous CSA threads on here. I have given up trying to get any money from them and I'm just thankful that I can support my child without needing the money iyswim (although it would come in handy).

Ironically and sorry to rant here.. my dd's father who always said he couldn't afford to pay has now shacked up with someone and has a dog... hmmm can afford a dog but can't afford to bung your own kid a fiver here and there... very telling!

sorry Pepperpots - just read my thread back and it reads awfully, it wasn't meant to sound snotty and nasty at all.

You might have had more response if you had posted in lone parents section.

The one thing I wish I'd done from the beginning is right down the date and time of every phone call, the name of the person/people I spoke to and a short summary of the call. It will help you no end when you are writing to your MP for help in a couple of years time.. keep a diary of calls and letters, keep every letter they send you and take photocopies on any letter you send them.

Sorry to hijack, but my dp has another dd, whose 9years old, He pays csa money - an awful lot imo.

Yes I agree he has a responsibility for his dd, but what makes me mad is that because of his csa payments I have to go back to work, while his ex, lives in a house paid for by the council, claims every benefit under the sun and still has £400+ of csa money. She has far more disposable income that we do, and hasn't ever had a job since her dd was born.

We have recently had to get rid of my car because we couldn't afford the monthley payments and now luckily dp has a work car.

Sorry for, I'm not in any way moaning about the csa, or women who claim on it, a father has got to take financial responsibility, however, I do wish the csawould look at individual circumstances before settingpayments.

Also - now my dp has another child, shouldn't the payments be altered?

Jmum you should request a change of circumstances if you have a dd with you dp that isn't taken into consideration.

jmum i understand completley as dp has a 3yr ols ds who's mother will let him have no contact despite fighting through court to get his parental responsibility (which was awarded to him) yet is happy to take 150 per month from him even though he know has two dependants (and thats with a change of circumstances form!) It seems all the one willing to pay are the ones that suffer and twats like my xp who get away with it for years

Know what you mean pepperpots. When ds was born (he's now nearly 8mths) dp contacted the csa, filled in forms, sent off wage slips etc etc, but nothing has changed

oh jeez, my sympathies are with you. wish i could tell you good stuff but unfortunatly no....just see any of my csa threads

over two years now without a penny....and im a csa amateur.

Ive never heard a good word about the csa, from any party.

Weren't they going to be dissolved and a new agency take over?

like it would make a difference? ive spent hundreds literally on getting hold of my ex. (daft when i know his address really). but his gf says he doesnt live there so evidently thats ok...well she must be telling the truth hadnt she? i even hired a private investigator to prove i was telling the truth. its come to nothing!!